A guy shared how his salary is constantly late because of an inefficient HR department and he has a boss that is selfish and asks if he should resign.

Here is the story

I’m 3 months into my current job and I’m feeling mentally tired.

Every single month I have to constantly chase HR on whether my timesheet has been submitted and having them giving me no response. Today I found out that my salary will be delayed because they didnt receive my timesheet despite me sending it before the cut off time.

At work I have to deal with my boss who is defensive af and her opinion is always right. I also have to deal with my manager who drag me down to save herself from her mistake she did at work so she look good infront of her boss.

Till today I didnt get to learn much despite me constantly asking.

I’m on a 1 year contract and I dont know how long I can take this pain.

This is my 3rd job. All I want is a place for me to stay long so it doesnt look bad on my resume.

(Past 2 jobs were contract and this is also a contract based job) P.S i’m doing tech

I work for a distributor that supplies the hospitality industry.

I initially joined as a customer service representative in a temporary role. The managers liked me and invited me back to cover their ordering department.

Then they offered me an operations role and I’ll be honest I love it. The account managers are responsible for the selling and fiscal aspects but I am responsible for logistics, supply chain, customer complaints, and basically anything they can’t do while mobile (so basically everything else, they are the face, I am the background program that keeps it all running).

Word got out that I was good at what I do and I am now responsible for most accounts due to account managers asking for me. The customer from the company’s biggest account won’t actually deal with anyone else but me.

This is all well and good and I am proud of myself for doing well…

The oldest member of our team,M, is the worst for it. He has made a lot of remarks over my time with the company usually calling me a “girl” and basically saying I don’t deserve to be there.

I maybe did the wrong thing and just started calling him on it saying “Now, you wouldn’t want people to think this team isn’t civilized” ect.

This was made worse when, recently, I accepted a promotion to logistics manager. My boss announced it and my account managers are upset that I won’t be taking care of the accounts anymore. My team are upset because they think I am too young and unqualified.

I was going to make a coffee when turning into the pantry I heard the oldest member of my team saying “I can’t belive that witch got that promotion!” To which, I heard another team member reply that they were shocked and then compared me to Miranda Priestley in The Devil Wears Prada.

I rounded the corner the rest of the way. Smiled. They left awkwardly. Then, right or wrong I got pissed off. I wasn’t blessed with being socially gifted. I was however blessed with being a problem solver, and I am okay with that. What I am not okay it is being treated badly because of it. We all have strong and weak points.

So I started signing any email interactions I had with him. My boss knew, I had discussed it. However, M went over his head and got upper management involved.

There was a meeting. He said I was making him uncomfortable. I then pointed management (and HR) to all the times I had complained on him making nasty comments to start. Not only that, but I showed them an email where he told me “I was a little girl who knew nothing and didn’t deserve the promotion”.

He got let go.

I didn’t think his behaviour was fair or nice but maybe I should have just kept my mouth shut. It is someone’s livelihood, at the same time I think he hung himself.

I found out my wife cheated on me we are both in our early to mid-20s.

So to give you a little background me and my wife have been together for 4 years come august. Last August we got married and by no means are we picture-perfect, we had a lot of bumps in the road in the beginning.

We luckily got thru a lot of those problems, but I can admit in the beginning I was good to her but towards the middle and closer to now, I neglected her. I wasn’t being a good boyfriend at the time, but she stayed by my side thru everything.

Late last year I had started to notice her attitude/mood change towards me very cold/callous. She wasn’t the same girl I was used to (sweet, flirty, funny)plus she was on the phone more with guys and very secretive with her phone.

So I confronted her about it once it was too much for me to bear. She admitted that she had lost feelings towards me and she was tired of carrying the relationship on her back. I was devastated because prior to that was trying really hard to change my ways and not just giving her a hal-half bo chap attitude “okay, I’m sorry I’ll change” but not sticking to it.

I was actually doing it without even saying anything. I understand that I’m not obligated/entitled to anything from her I just thought If she saw that I was changing we could fix it for good. Well I found out in early January that she was talking to someone. To say I was devastated is an understatement, but I didn’t want to give up hope.

We talked about it a lot Around Valentine’s Day weekend me and her got back together and she told me she blocked the guy she was talking to. Well, the other day our son was playing with her phone and he had pulled up a picture w her and a guy in what looked like a hotel and she says something along the lines of no that I wasn’t in a hotel that it was at a party in someone’s room.

I don’t try to argue with her so I brush it off. Well, I come home today and my son had her phone while she napped for a few minutes. So I grabbed the unlocked phone and he was on her pictures. I look to my horror and she had a video of her and this guy having intercourse.

I about lost it, and I couldn’t stop crying. She hears me and wakes up, she comes into the living room and I toss the phone at her. She immediately denies anything and I told her I saw everything and to stop lying already and to once and for all tell me the truth. So she wants to talk but I have nothing to say, bc I always told her that I can forgive a lot of things and having intercourse another person isn’t one of them.

I love this woman to death guys should I give her a second chance or do I end it with her and co-parent? I’m so confused right now. My mental health has always been an issue that runs in my family but with me specifically, I have a lot of unresolved issues. I need advice please and thank you.

My bf is high SES – earns high income (12k/mth), family well to do, dines at nice places and drives nice car whereas my family is middle class.

I make 2.5k/mth, my parents are not so well off so we rarely go out for meals and cannot afford to drive. My boyfriend doesn’t mind all of these things about me and I know its just me but I cant help but feel so inferior compared to him.

I feel like he can easily find someone else out there with the same attributes as me but from a much better background which will help him maintain his current SOL whereas if he sticks with me, he will have to end up “downgrading” because I simply don’t have the financial capacity to match his. Sometimes I feel resentful towards him because he always seems so carefree. Doesn’t have to worry about things, parents really take care of his needs whereas I’m not so close to my family and I have to worry about my finances and cannot splurge as freely as he can.

Any advice on how I can get over these negative feelings and thoughts.

Here are what netizens think:

• It’s a good opportunity to learn from them how they manage to be high SES. You seem to be mostly looking at the disadvantages (e.g. feeling inferior) but not at the advantages of having a high SES boyfriend (e.g. his needs are taken care of so you have less to worry about, learning what your bf does at his job to earn 12k.)Remember, he chose you because he appreciated you in some way. You have to choose you too – appreciate yourself and work on yourself.

• You sound like a inferior dumpling, no one cares. If this is an issue in the first place he won’t be with you. So stop finding problem

• Wah lau.. Got money also complain… Don’t give girls a bad name leh.. All these feelings are your self-esteem talking and possibly envy too.If you want to match him, then upgrade your qualifications and/or work towards getting a better paying job.If you don’t want him, I’m sure other girls will grab him.

A woman shared how she never wanted to have children but after she got pregnant and gave birth to her son, she realised that she loves him more than anything in the world.

Here is the story

My birth control failed. I found out nearly at the end of the first trimester, too late to abort although I’m extremely pro-choice, there was no way that was even a consideration.

I never wanted kids because I was treated horribly as a child and feared I’d be no better than my parents.

I just welcomed my baby boy into the world yesterday evening. It was the most painful thing I’ve ever done in my life, it hurt worse than I could have ever imagined.

But…I’m in love.

When I look at him, nothing else matters. He’s perfect. I’m hoping to get my tubes tied soon, he is enough for us.

My family is complete. I cannot wait to give this little human the best life he deserves.

Good god, who knew you could love someone so much? I can’t fathom how my parents used to hit me. I look at him and I melt.

I could never lay a hand on him other than to soothe him. Bringing a child into this world is hard and not for everyone. I wouldn’t recommend it.

But if you do, just do right by them. Man, I love this kid. I haven’t slept in three days. Thanks for reading.

About 2 hours ago, me (m-30) and my wife (f-29) happily married for almost 3 years now. My wife and I were having a good time, our S life’s have improved recently (trying new things etc) however we both have fertility-related issues but actively trying to have our first child. I sometimes find it hard to finish (I had a test and my tadpole are all ok) and she’s going to see a gynaecologist next month to make sure all ok her side.

After we did the deed, my wife gets a text from our neighbour, that they can hear us going at it and this is not the first occasion they’ve heard, we are now both really embarrassed and have no idea how to play it out next time we see them. We do get one well (they are a couple about 3 years younger than us) so just thinking not to discuss it and just carry on as normal?

On the other hand, we have never heard either of our neighbours doing the deed. The other side has a young baby (about 2 months old) and as mentioned before our neighbours are a young couple. Assuming we have thin walls are they just not having good S or none at all?

Here are what netizens think:

• Your wife should’ve told them she wasn’t home

• ask them if they want to join.

• Reading this is so funny to me cause my upstairs neighbors just finished going at it, that and this post got me thinking, and this is the first I’ve ever heard someone in my building having a good time
• They confirm listening on you and your wife by sticking the ear on the wall

• I think they k-poh, or they never get enough thats why they talk like that.

My boss put me through hell and I returned the favor by quitting

It’s been a while since I quit and I’m keeping it vague so this doesnt come back to get me. Basically I was brought into a company and my manager was very narccisctic and unhelpful in many ways.

They always talked shit about coworkers behind their backs with me and seemed to be very hands off with work despite their seniority in the company.

They had beef with a coworker and fired them and I was the new guy on the block. I got handed the coworkers job on top of my current role.

I had a week to learn it. eventually began to work 2 roles. Finally, a third role was handed to me. I began to stay up countless nights til sometimes 1 am working so I don’t fall behind. For 9 months, I worked the roles of 3 people for the same pay.

If I asked for help or advice, I’d get lectured or yelled at, and it got to the point where I cried in front of my manager before and they could feel the stress on my shoulders and even after that, they never made the effort to hire more people to help or try to assist me.

I eventually dropped the news on their desk when they came back from a trip and said I’m calling it quits. I made a few shitty pdf guides of some of my roles and responsibilities and I made them purposely very convoluted processes that my manager could never understand due to their lack of technological knowledge with the softwares I was using.

I was told my manager was crying the last week leading up to my departure because they couldn’t find a replacement. I just shrugged and said not my problem.

The last day came and I just drove home with a smile. i checked the career page the following week and saw two roles posted up just to cover me, and I wouldn’t be surprised if there was one more.

My manager basically got handed the job of 3 people and now they’re under so much stress. Before I left, a few coworkers also approached me and said good on me for leaving, they’re also thinking the same. Feels good to get revenge!

I (F25) slid my used panties into a coworker’s belongings

There is this guy I’ve had a thing for at work for a while. I have been dropping subtle hints to see if he was interested at all… he didn’t pick up a hint.

So I decided to be a little more blunt! He has a bag that he brings to work with him. I went to the restroom, removed the lacy panties I was wearing and tucked them in my pocket.

I walked to the employee area where his bag was and slid them into his bag without anyone seeing me. About an hour or 2 later I see him walking to the employee area to get in his bag. (I made sure I was in a spot so I could see his reaction when he got into his belongings)

He opened his bag, his eyes got really wide, quickly closed his bag and started to get red. Then he looked over at me and gave me a slight smile that turned me on and made me wet.

Later that day after getting home from work, I received a picture from him. It was my panties absolutely COVERED in his fresh load.

I wanted to be wearing those panties again SO bad right in that moment!!! He promised that we could arrange that soon

Netizens’ comments

1. I was a manager at a company and had my own office. On the same floor was the customer service desks. This was back in the late 90s, so the females at the office had to wear dresses or skirts with pantyhose or nylons.
   One day, one of the customer service women (tall, fairly skinny, long legs) had just come back from lunch. She was wearing a white blouse, red skirt, nylons and white heels.
   As she walked by my office, without saying a word, walked, opened my top right drawer of my desk and put a pair of red panties in the drawer, left without saying a word.
   Later, I saw her go get some coffee, and I asked if she would like to get a drink after work, she said yes. After a few drinks she asked if she could have her panties back in exchange for a bj.
   Well, that started a nice long coworker secret affair.

I’m a new mommy to be and “MIL” is being an absolute PAIN.

Here’s just a FEW things that are bothering me:

DH (Dear Hubby) and I (both mid-20s) found out that I was pregnant very early on. We told MIL, my mom, and a select few of others.

I am now almost into my second trimester and everyone knows, but not because DH or I have announced we are expecting (I was hoping to create a beautiful announcement after we found out the gender) but because MIL has told everyone she comes into contact with (after I specifically asked her not to.”

This may be just a personal ick or maybe I’m just not used to this since this is my first child but I cannot stand when MIL says things along the lines of “how’s MY baby doing today” “I can’t wait to find out what MY baby is going to be” “I love MY little baby” etc. when talking about the baby that I am creating inside me.

Since becoming pregnant I have been absolutely miserable being that I have been sick every single day (nausea AND vomiting- diagnosed with HG), my anxiety and mood swings have increased, and I am having the hardest time with exhaustion (again, keep in mind that this is my first pregnancy so all of these intense feelings are new to me, fingers crossed the 2nd trimester will be better).

Since this is my first time being pregnant I feel like I just need more time to adjust because my mind and body seem to be freaking out.

I’ve tried talking to MIL about it because she seemed so supportive in the beginning but now she keeps saying things like “I had wonderful pregnancies so I’m not sure what your problem is” “Pregnancy is supposed to be beautiful, I don’t know why you keep saying you’re miserable” …

I didn’t realize we were the same person(????) but it’s almost like she’s trying to shame me for whatever reason; definitely invalidating my feelings completely.

I’m to the point I don’t want to keep her updated and would honestly love to go no contact because I’m just over it. She’s treating me like I’m just an incubator for HER baby and I am SO scared she’s going to TRY to mother my child and undermine my parenting completely.

Am I overreacting? Am I the issue for being so bent out of shape about this? A part of me feels guilty because it is her first GRANDchild but another part of me is wanting to really freak out on her because this will be MY first CHILD.

Don’t know exactly what to say to DH about this since she’s his mom and we were raised differently. I have talked to him a few times but he tells me to ignore her and that she’s just excited because it’s his baby too but my mom is not being like this whatsoever.

My mom is being completely understanding and supportive of me and has not once invalidated my feelings whereas his mom has invalidated my feelings repeatedly and is constantly making me feel like I’m just a incubator and no longer a person.

I know his mom is not my mom so things are different but it would be nice to have support for myself all the way around.

I just don’t know how to handle this gracefully because I am a people pleaser but I can only be pushed so far before I snap.

I know that now since I’m becoming a mom I really need to get out of my “people pleasing” habit and stop keeping the peace while sacrificing my own but I seriously feel another world war coming soon because I like I said, I don’t know how to handle this gracefully.

I will take any advice I can get, please.

I had a “ho phase” after I was widowed and I’m ashamed

In November 2021 my husband was killed in a traffic accident when walking home. Obviously, it turned my world upside down. I spent a while avoiding friends, work, men and being outside in general.

But about a year ago I decided to download tinder, I used a fake name and selected the option that hides your profile from people who have your number, as I was, and am terrified of people finding out and judging me.

I ended up matching a guy and I was only planning on talking to him, but he ended up talking me into meeting him for a drinks date. I ended up going home with him.

Since then I’ve done this with several more guys, I’m enjoying myself. But I also feel quite ashamed, I still love my husband and I really miss him.

We were each others first everythings, if he was still here I know I wouldn’t have ever done anything like this. But a part of me really likes it, and it makes me feel gross.

I’ll probably never tell any of my friends about this, the only people who know are my therapist and one of my sisters. I just wanted to get this off my chest though, I hope this wasn’t too long. Thanks for reading my rambles.

Netizens’ comments

1. There’s a actually a name for this: widow’s fire. It’s so common that it has a name, society just doesn’t like talking about it!
   It is very understandable that after losing your main source of intimacy and affection, at some point your body wants that again, even if your brain knows that you’re not yet ready for any intense commitment.
2. I’m not a therapist and even if I was I don’t know you and read just 4 paragraphs about you. That said, my guess is that because you lost the love of your life and you, somewhere down deep, decided, “F it. If life is going to rip my love away, I’ll just get my kicks with intercourse.”
3. No judgment at all if you want to burn through some randoms to figure out what life means to you again, sitting at home dwelling isnt healthy. Remember your husband as you always will but life goes on.