When I reflect on my journey so far as a cabin crew member, I often think of the many passengers I encounter on board a plane.

I have been in the industry for over 5 years now, and I can confidently say that I have seen some of the most interesting characters when I am at work.

Once the aircraft takes off, many of these ‘atas’ people start showing their true colours

I’ve seen passengers who look like they’re of some status, but then act like barbarians when the plane takes off.

It’s always a little disheartening to see these passengers act in this manner. At the airport, they might appear to be well-mannered and polite. They might even appear to be the perfect gentleman or lady.

However, the moment the plane leaves the ground, they become completely different people. They start yelling, throwing their arms around, and generally behaving in a way that makes the other passengers uncomfortable.

I have seen passengers who have had too much to drink, and it’s always a challenge to try and ensure a safe and comfortable flight for everyone on board.

I have also seen passengers who seem to think that the plane is their own personal space, and that they can do whatever they please.

They seem to think that they are above the rules of the aircraft, and I have seen them become quite aggressive when I try to stop them from doing something they shouldn’t be doing.

The worst part is when these passengers don’t even realise or care that their behaviour is affecting the other passengers on the plane.

I have seen families with young children who are trying to enjoy their flight, but are instead subjected to the rude and obnoxious behaviour of someone who has too much to drink or who doesn’t care about the other passengers.

I understand that some passengers are just having a bit of fun, but there is a time and a place for that. I think that being on an aircraft is definitely not the time for it.

My bf always says that I’m a perv but I really love to smell his armpit. I find this smell better than my chouchou and it makes me feel safe and secure.

I will always grab him especially when he is at his sweatiest so that I can inhale the maximum of his armpit essence.

Esp when he’s warm and sweaty, the smell is the strongest and I’ll faster grab him so I can smell him before he runs away.

Every time I hugged him, I would take the chance to sniff his armpits. Even when we weren’t in the middle of a hug, I would lean in close and take a deep breath.

I could tell that he was feeling incredibly uncomfortable, but I didn’t care about it because I was enjoying it and I would smell his armpits every chance I got

He doesn’t like me to hug him when he’s sweaty so he’ll always escape and lock himself in the toilet.

Sometimes it doesn’t work cos I’ll take the spare key with me first to unlock the door.

He told me one day that he felt violated by my behaviour. He explained that he found me sniffing his armpits to be intrusive and disrespectful. He asked me to respect my boundaries and to stop smelling his armpits.

He says I’m disrespecting his privacy and that he wants to file a restraining order against me but without smelling his armpit, I cannot sleep at night so too bad for him.

Any Chinese Singaporeans here that cant or can barely speak Chinese? Do you ever feel ostracised or alien in Singapore among your peers?

I’m one of those losers who’s Chinese but can’t speak Chinese but it’s also just my upbringing. I was born into an English-speaking Chinese family and even on my Chinese grandparents’ side it is the same case.

I’m probably one of those very rare cases in Singapore unfortunately…. but it’s also been quite a detriment to me now being really bad in my Chinese.

Don’t get me wrong, I still try to brush up on my Chinese even as an adult today, but it’s really really hard when I have zero opportunities to practice speaking anyway. My parents dont speak Chinese and my friend groups dont speak Chinese either (even though they can def speak decently compared to me).

Does anyone else feel ostracised in society like this? I have those typical co-workers who speak Chinese and I cant converse back with them in Chinese making it harder to build rapport.

Or when ordering at Chinese restaurants where there’s Chinese national staff, it’s also sometimes a problem. I also cant help but feel inferior at times when I see all my friends speak Chinese just fine or when people find out I cant speak the language properly.

Here are what netizens think

• i come from an english-speaking chinese family and the only time i talk in chinese is in chinese lessons, my grandparents or people who can only speak in chinese.
  
  ever since i graduated from secondary school, i no longer have to take any chinese lessons and my usage of chinese deteriorated and now i struggle to phrase basic sentences and sometimes i feel embarrassed because of this, because it really takes some time for me to pause, think, and piece the words together.
  
  i don’t really feel ostracised though but maybe because my friends also speak in english as well. but of course when i have to talk to chinese aunties/uncles, then of course i will struggle but eventually i will manage to relay my point in chinese to them. As long as they understand what i say to them, it’s fine.
  
• Don’t ever feel bad for not being able to speak Chinese to PRC workers who (only) speak Chinese. They work in Singapore, they should be prepared to speak at least basic English to cater to non-Chinese speaking people (regardless of race). Particularly very public-facing ones like bus drivers. Too many PRC workers get by because many Chinese Singaporeans will just speak Chi to them anyway.
  
  From the more personal / cultural side, I guess it depends on how you view Chinese. Some would say that dialects are our real mother tongue instead.

Any guys got experience in this or thinking about marrying girls from other countries instead? How long will it take for them to obtain citizenship here and is there any requirements?

I don’t have the typical standards that girls will usually like

For context, I’m a 25M and have been single my whole life. Yeah I know but sad to say I don’t meet the requirement of girls here.

Firstly, Height is usually the issue. I’m way below the average height of a guy. Secondly, looks wise I’m ugly af. Girls I met online or in real life usually give me a 4-6/10 out of courtesy.

Some really straightforward ones gave me a 1 haha

Lastly, I do admit I don’t have the best dressing sense but I’ll try to look nice, clean and somewhat presentable.

I want to start a family asap, best before 30 years old if possible

Tried dating apps and usually got rejected because of the above reasons. Really sick and tired of looking for a partner and always getting rejected.

Waste of time and money to be honest. Futhermore, I am not young anymore. Would really want to have a family of my own before 30 if possible.

Got to know about this thing where it is similar to arranged marriage and would like to know if anyone got experience.

So. My parents caught me pleasuring myself.

I recently discovered the perfect tool to pleasure myself and was caught up in it

I’m a female in my late teens so don’t be weird. My family is pretty religious and I had recently discovered the power of oral-b electric toothbrushes.

I also figured out a method to virtually avoid producing any noise that can be heard by the outside world. This means locking my door, locking my bathroom door, turning on the bathroom fan, and pretending I’m taking a fat dump.

Well I was doing my thing with my laptop in there with me and I failed to hear my parents calling me since I had headphones on. No biggie right?

I’ve got TWO whole locked doors. Well they must’ve thought I was dying in there or something cause my mom unlocks the my room door and walks in heading for the bathroom.

I was about to yell the usual about me being in the bathroom and was taking a huge dump but it was too late. She saw me in my state of undress with the oral-b electric toothbrush in my hands

Luckily I at least had my underwear and a shirt on.

She does a little gasp and my dad is behind her. I was hoping they’d just walk off but nah they sat me down on my bed and we had like a 3 hour long conversation about it.

First I had to convince them I wasn’t filming myself or anything, they also told me what I was doing was evil and bad in the eyes of their religious beliefs.

They tried to convince me to follow their beliefs saying that it as good for me and to get them off my back, I had to bs stuff about believing and thereafter they told me they loved me blah blah blah.

Overall not as bad as it COULD have been but yeah. We all cried. They probably think I’m gonna go to the 18th level of the underworld.

Till date, my dad looks traumatized by what I did.

My ex-girlfriend offered to meet me to talk when I had just broken up with my current girlfriend. I had been with my current girlfriend for almost a year and things had been great up until this point.

We had been getting along well and we were both happy with our relationship until we broke up due to some issues that we had with each other’s parents.

My ex-girlfriend saw that I am single, and called me on the pretext of ‘catching up’ with me.

My ex-girlfriend saw that I had broke up with my current girlfriend and called me out of the blue when we had not been talking ever since our relationship ended and asked to meet up to talk and ‘catch up’.

I knew that it would not be so simple but because I was lonely and needed someone to vent my frustrations of breaking up to, I decided to go ahead and meet up with her anyway.

But when I met her, it became very clear cut to me on what she had in mind. She was flirtatious with her words and began to be slightly touchy to me.

Soon, she began to lean on me like how we used to be while we were still in a relationship with one another.

She started to touch me, kiss me, and make suggestive comments. I was starting to feel overwhelmed, and I knew I had to either tell her I wasn’t interested in what she was doing if I didn’t want it or just let nature take its course.

Before I could say anything, she climbed over to my side of the car and straddled herself on me and began to remove her clothes.

We ended up ‘relieving’ old memories and I temporarily forgot about my break up for that moment.

I (F32) am the manager of a group of bankers . We’re spread out over several offices and once every few months we meet up in person. It’s a great team and we’re really close.

Made out with one of my subordinates while waiting for the train

The meet ups are always great. We don’t really have a hierarchy in the team. I support them being their best selves at work and I’m not seen as a “boss”.

I’ve been with each and every one of them 1-1 before. “Mike” (35M) is one of them.

We had a productive day and went for dinner and drinks afterwards. We had to go to different train stations in the vicinity to get home after we were done, so we split up and split up again until it was just me and Mike left.

We can get along great and I never thought anything else of it. But now, seemingly out of nothing we kissed. There was a short silence before we did it and we just looked each other in the eye and moved towards each other.

We made out for a few minutes at the corner of the MRT station platform until the train came and we went off in opposite directions

We’ve managed to speak afterwards and it seems we both have certain feelings or technically ‘lust’ for each other. We’re both in a relationship with kids and do not want to pursue what happened.

But every since that kiss our minds are completely messed up. We’re both anxious about what happened and I can’t stop thinking about it. I love him to bits and I didn’t only risk losing our friendship but I also made him feel bad. Being his manager makes it even worse.

He says we’re okay, I am more than happy to be okay with him, but thinking how I made him feel makes me so anxious. And it’s on my mind all day for over a week now.

I’m just wondering whether I should suggest meeting up again to properly talk about it without the risk of partners or colleagues listening in.

I also want to apologise in person and see and feel we’re indeed okay. There’s absolutely no chance it will happen again as I don’t want to cause hurt and love my family.

I’m worried that it’ll become visible in the next team meet up if we don’t properly talk about it before.

I know I’m a terrible person, no need to tell me that.

I think I just want to vent as I can’t share it with anyone.