I’m not the kind of person to take medication generally unless it’s like an antibiotic – I try to tough things out. So my boyfriend suggested I take a panadol.

I was surprised I didn’t even consider that an option, considering just how bad my neck hurt. So I agreed and he offered to go get me something. When he comes back to the room he has two little pills and he goes “these are stronger but they’ll really help”. I asked him “what are they” several times & he told me to stop worrying/just relax/theyll help your neck/they’re stronger than panadol.

So I trusted him. A few mins go by and I decide to ask him again – what was it that he gave me. And he goes anarex. When I asked him why didn’t he tell me, he said it’s because he had an ex who had a toothache one day and she got mad at him for when he gave her panadol. I was scared to be compared to the ex (he used to do that a lot early in our relationship and I have self esteem issues as is) and I was scared to begin an argument. Or even be labeled something negative for having a potentially irrational fear.

Inside, I felt scared, nervous, betrayed, and hurt. Had I known what it was I would’ve said no. I am so upset with myself for trying to be amicable. I am so upset with him for not giving me a choice to say no.

Anyways a few hours go by and I start to feel it kick in. I had a massive headache. It’s the next morning now and my head still hurts just not as bad. I threw up this morning which helped the headache. Last night, he tried to tell me that it’s not the pill that’s giving me the headache.

But I am certain it is. my head just feels all around heavy. I barely slept because it was so bad. And my bf goes “it could’ve been the pill was expired but I doubt it because it’s a painkiller he says.” I feel like he said that to save face? I’m not sure. He was trying to tell me my headache is from something else but I just know it’s not!

I am at such a loss right now. I want to break up with him over this but I’m worried that it’s not over valid grounds because he was trying to help me.

We all travelled together in the past and things were fine, however G has not really been able to hold a stable job in quite a while due to anxiety and sometimes is struggling with money.. so many times when we go out I offered to pay for small things like drinks, her ticket once (cheap one), small restaurant meals, a manicure… and my friend probably did too.

She would always say ‘next time on me’ or saying she would pay back (e.g. for the ticket) – but that never happens and I kind of realized she would never return the favor or anything similar since she’s never improving her situation. I’m not gonna lie, it did bother me but I let it go considering her situation and the fact that overall it’s not that much money.

However, this time while in this village and just having a drink outside a bar, she started telling us how she really wanted to travel and see her boyfriend who lives in another country about 3h flight away and how he’s always the one to visit and it’s not fair on him.. also said she spent her last money for the month on this outing instead of securing a ticket to see her bf.

She asked my friend if she can borrow from her but my friend returned back to studying recently and quit her job and said she can’t afford to spend anything extra for at least a week. She then asked me if I could borrow her the money (this ticket is really not cheap, could have a day out with that money) and that she will pay me back first thing when she gets her salary.

That really struck a nerve and I said no. Both G and my friend looked at me in shock and asked why, to which I couldn’t answer without probably creating a drama.. and I just said ‘don’t wanna lend money to anyone’.

At that moment they both changed their attitude and G was having this disgusting face put on for a while. We later pretended that discussion didn’t exist but after we got home my friend K told me I’m evil for not lending her the money because I’m working and not in <too much> financial distress.

How am I wrong?

I have a boyfriend that works in a restaurant in another country (1.30h flight, so there is not an issue there). He doesnt have many friends, just the ones he met at work.

We have been doing this for a year, and things have gone from good to bad and vice versa. His friends from work are mostly female, which isnt a problem to me.

Recently, his friend(F) blocked him on social media after a joke he made, and he said to her best friend(F) that he loved her. When I got upset about this, he said i didn’t understand humour and the context and i shouldn’t feel bad about this. I quickly started to realize that this friend who blocked him liked him, and felt a little uncomfortable with the situation.

I would not tell my boyfriend who he can and cannot hang out with, its not fair and not right so i don’t ever do that. I know she likes him because she stalks his Spotify to see what songs he listens to and starts conversations like that, she constantly texts him and started making fun of him(and me) when she found out about me.

He is her boss, so her being able to text him after work is a little weird to me. When there is a problem between us, he runs to those 2 females (the one who likes him and her best friend) and they always say im bad for him.

He never really sticks up for me, its always ‘hahaha shut up!’ In the most jokingly manner, you can imagine. It would come to a point where he wouldnt open my messages, but open theirs.

At first i didn’t care, but their groupchat takes up all the time we have when we meet in real life. After doing adult time, he will simply roll over and text his groupchat. I get annoyed at this. My best friend has contacted with him and lets him vent in his DMS, so he wouldnt have to text the girls about this. It makes me uncomfortable when he does that (with the girls) because we agreed to not put our problems in other peoples minds if we havent talked about them.

Im ok with him venting to my best friend, because i know my best friend wont just pick my side in arguments. He will let him rage and vent without there being an issue. However, i have blocked my boyfriend numerous of times. Reasons of this were because we were broken up or because i was over it all.

The last time i blocked him, was because he called me abusive over me blocking him on Whatsapp. I agree that i say words that hurt when i am angry and can be very rude or harsh with my words, but i never saw or thought of myself as abusive. (I am in therapy to work on myself.) because this is a serious accusation, i blocked him.

When i did, he texted my best friend that i am borderline abusive and the biggest mistake he made. I forgave him for this, but its still in the back of my head whenever i see him. He is constantly on his phone texting those females and im afraid to say anything about it because i am scared he will call me abusive again. So AITA for being annoyed when he texts them? Mostly right after sexy time.