My heart was broken when my mother told me that my wife wanted her to leave our home.

She had sold her own house away to stay with us because my PRC wife just bore our first child and she stayed with us to help us take care of our kid while we were at work.

This was my suggestion as I thought it was a win win, we had free help to take care of our kid and I can still see my mother often.

My PRC wife and I had been married for three years, and I had never expected her to behave in such a cruel manner.

The day my mother arrived, my wife was not happy. She was angry that my mother was taking up space in our home, and she refused to talk to her.

I tried my best to make them get along, but it was to no avail. My wife seemed determined to keep my mother away from our home, and she was constantly making snide comments about her.

Things took a turn for the worse when my wife told me that she wanted to rent out the room that my mother was staying in.

She said that this would be a great way to make some extra money, and that it would be a good way to get rid of my mother.

I was horrified by this suggestion, and I told her that I would not allow it to happen.

That was when she started making threats. She said that she would not allow my mother to stay in our home any longer, and that she would make sure that she left.

She also said that if I refuse to budge, she would bring my kid and go back to her parents home which was in China and never come back.

I did not want that to happen and I also could not bear to see my mother homeless so I tried to negotiate for more time to settle the issue.

It has been a few days since my PRC wife brought out this suggestion and I have a few more days to get back to her on my decision.

I’m still at a loss and still wondering what I should do.

I had been dating my girlfriend for the past year and a half. We had been getting along really well, and I thought that we were really in love. But then, one day, it all changed.

We had been planning to go out for lunch, but she wanted to go cafe hopping instead. I had no problem with that as I thought it would be fun to try something new.

However, the problem was that cafe hopping was very expensive. I had to pay for her meals, her drinks, and all the other stuff that she wanted to buy.

At first, I was willing to go along with it and pay for everything, but after a few months, I started to realize that this was becoming a very expensive habit.

I started to worry that I was spending too much money on her and that I would not be able to afford other important bills.

I decided to talk to her about it and try to explain why I was so worried. But instead of listening to me, she got angry and started to yell at me.

She said that I was controlling and that I was trying to tell her what to do and how to live her life.

I was so hurt and angry that I could not take it anymore. I told her that I could not be with her anymore and that I was breaking up with her.

I said that I could not keep paying for her every whim and that it was no longer sustainable for me.

My girlfriend was devastated and she begged me to stay with her. But I had made up my mind and I knew that I had to end it.

I could not keep paying for her cafe hopping habit and I knew that it was not going to work out in the long run.

So, that was it. We broke up and I said goodbye to my girlfriend. I was sad to see it end, but I knew that it was the right thing to do.

I had to protect my own finances and I could not keep paying for her cafe hopping habit.

It was a hard decision, but I knew that it was the right one for me.

I wish that things had worked out differently, but I had to put my own financial security first.

I’m sure many of us have had the experience of meeting someone online and chatting for a few days before deciding to go on a date.

It’s a great way to get to know someone without the pressure of a face-to-face meeting.

However, when I decided to take the plunge and go on a date with a girl I met online, I was in for a surprise.

The date was going great. We had a lot in common and were having a great time. When it came time to settle the bill, I suggested that we split it, as is customary in most dating scenarios.

But that’s when things took a turn for the worse.

The girl had an outburst after being told to split the bill. She started yelling at me and accusing me of trying to take advantage of her. She said I had no right to ask her to split the bill and that I was going to pay for it all.

I was dumbfounded. I had never encountered anything like this before and I wasn’t sure how to respond. I just stood there, not sure what to do or say.

I tried to explain that splitting the bill was just a polite thing to do. But she wasn’t having any of it.

Finally, after a few awkward moments, I decided to pay for the whole bill and we left the restaurant. I was relieved to be out of there and away from the situation.

It was an uncomfortable situation to be in, to say the least. I understand that dating can be stressful and that people can have different expectations, but I still can’t believe her reaction to something as simple as splitting the bill.

It’s made me a little warier of dating in general, especially when it comes to meeting people online. I’m not sure if I’ll ever take the plunge and go on a date with someone again.

I never want to meet her again.

Having Scars

Just a rant, looking for an outlet to vent.

I once had a toxic relationship (in my 30s and the relationship went on for 3 years). She was controlling, demanding and overall a toxic person. It was rather strange because she wasn’t like this before we became official. She started to demand that I am not supposed to interact with any females, even for work related correspondence.

It really impeded my work since I am not supposed to communicate with any one of the opposite gender. It has affected me so much that my social skills has became non existence. I literally don’t know how to communicate with anyone at all right now. I have became socially awkward to the point that I avoid any work related events or networking sessions.

During the relationship, I was also prohibited from meeting any of my friends since she deemed them as bad influences. She would only allow me to hang out with friends that has her “stamp of approval”. Even so, she would regularly call or text during this period of time. It was a must to reply her messages. If not, there will be a barrage of calls. It has gone to the point where I just stopped meeting any of my friends. For context, most of my friends are guys and I barely hangout with any females.

I am also not allowed to have any hobbies at all. My hobbies are all normal, decent stuff like cooking, gaming, photography (of inanimate items and nature scenes, not shooting models or females). I was forced to deleted my personal and photography IG account. All my time must be spent of her. Meaning that even if we are not meeting, I am supposed to reply her text immediately. Hence, most of my free time are spent at home (since I can’t hang out with friends or spend time on my hobbies) watching tv. Whenever she texts, I would pause my show and reply to her immediately. I basically have no life at all. Again, for context, I have not done anything to take her trust away. I have not cheated. I have treated her right, bought her high ticket items as gifts and whatnot. My hobbies were all fine before we became official as well. I really did not understand what made her banned me from doing things that I love.

One thing that really got to me was how she hates and criticises my family. She often complains about how my family are just very rude in general. My family barely meets her let alone speaking to her. I really don’t know where she’s getting that from. She even went to the point of telling me no wonder my siblings have no friends at all since they are so rude.

I have contemplated but has also tried breaking up with her on multiple occasions. But her toxic traits made it so difficult to. A plethora of emotional abuses and arguments. I have already took in many unreasonable requests (as mentioned above) but it’s never enough for her. I have tried to unalive myself multiple times because I really couldn’t take the stress and abuse. There are so many railroad tracks on my arms that I can’t see myself wearing short sleeves shirts anymore just because I don’t want my mom to see it.

Frankly speaking, I really don’t know what went wrong. I have done nothing bad to her at all and put her above everything else. I don’t know what caused her become like this. I am just glad that it is over. With both the physical and mental scars, I really don’t know how I am or when will I be ready to date again.

I am really scared right now. My girlfriend recently bought tools used in the 50 Shades of Grey movie and I’m afraid of what she’ll do to me with them. I’m starting to worry about what our relationship is becoming.

We’ve been together for about a year and a half now, and I thought things were going fairly well. We had a great connection and I felt like I could trust her with anything. I wasn’t expecting her to go out and buy tools used in the 50 Shades of Grey movie.

I was shocked when I found out.

I didn’t know what to think or say. I was scared that she would actually use them on me. I think she’s just trying to spice up our relationship, but I’m not sure how I feel about it.

I asked her about it and she said that she bought them for us to experiment with and see if we like them. She promised that she wouldn’t do anything to me that I didn’t want her to. I told her that I wasn’t comfortable with it and that I didn’t think it was a good idea.

She said that I could just watch her use the tools on herself so I could experience the sensation without actually having to do it. I told her that I wasn’t sure if I wanted to be involved in that kind of thing at all. She said that I didn’t have to do anything if I didn’t want to.

But I’m still scared. I know that she won’t do anything to me without my consent, but I’m still worried about what might happen if I do agree to try it. It’s something that I’m not used to, and I’m not sure if I’m ready for it.

I’m also worried about what our relationship will become if we do start experimenting with this kind of thing. Will it be healthy and consensual, or will it become something dark and twisted? I don’t want to find out the hard way.

I’m really scared right now and I’m not sure what to do. I wish I could talk to someone about it, but I’m afraid that if I do, my girlfriend will find out and get angry. I don’t want to do anything to hurt her or our relationship.

At the same time, I’m not sure if I’m ready for this kind of thing. I’m afraid of what might happen if I do agree to try it. I’m scared of the unknown and I don’t know if I can handle it.

I guess the only thing that I can do is talk to my girlfriend about it and see how she reacts. I hope that she’ll be understanding and that she won’t pressure me into doing something that I’m not ready for. I just want to make sure that our relationship is healthy and that I’m not getting into something that I’m not prepared for.

I’m want to get to know you but I don’t know what to do!

There is a guy that I am curious about and I want to get to know better, but our positions at work make it difficult to get acquainted with each other.

To sum it short, I work for the parent organisation and though we are around the same age (I am ~3 years younger), I am basically his boss’ boss’ boss.

So any form of personal contact is overstepping boundaries. He has my number saved because of work, but we do not converse. I also do not save his number because I do not want to do anything suspicious. I only know he saved mine as I can see his phone number on telegram.

I met him because the parent organisation goes to the smaller branches to do checks, though not frequently. I can count the number of times we interacted on one hand.

Not saying that I want to pursue a romantic relationship with this person immediately ( I don’t even know if he is attached), but I would love to get to know him better if given the chance as he seems like a very sweet and gentle person through our few interactions.

It’s been about 2 years and each time I’ve met him, I usually end up thinking about him for days, which explains this post.

Any advice is appreciated please

Here are what netizens think:

• You are his boss’ boss’ boss? That makes you his great grandma. Don’t eat up little boys lah.

• Huge power imbalance and it would be inappropriate to date a colleague. If I were him, I would not dare to go out with you. If it goes sour, he would lose his job. And if it doesn’t go sour, it would still be supremely awkward for him to go out with his boss’s boss’s boss.

• It has been 2 years and neither of you knew each other on a more personal basis, beyond being mere colleagues. Him adding you on Telegram probably meant nothing, not a big deal. I second other people’s suggestion that you should widen your social circle.

• You can leave him alone and find someone outside work who’s more compatible with you?

Everyone complaining about their partners or asking for advices on their partners, I’ll share mine with on a more positive side instead.

My girlfriend is great, 1 year older than me. Local uni graduate, commanding a respectable salary and very people’s oriented. My family and friends adores her, she’s amicable and she’s respectful. She has great ambitions in life and beautiful.

Me on the other hand, still awaiting uni and have a long way to go, yet she understands my position and is ready to support my journey (not financially la, she’s my girlfriend not sugar mommy) and we’ve discussed about our future together with regards to having children, housing, material things we want to achieve in life and other intangible things like community work and achievements we want to achieve.

Girls like this do exist, supportive, understanding, mature, beautiful. But as men, we have to show what we offer on our end as well. Are you goal oriented, focused, mature, pragmatic, working on self improvement?

If you feel insecure/unable to connect with your partner simply because of salary disparity, or for guys, if you feel inferior because you earn lesser than your partner, then honestly just break up la.

Fundamentally, your mindset is already broken, you feel inferior/superior because of money. Fix that mindset before getting into a relationship, because will you be able to accept your partner if he/she is one day bankrupt?

Here are what netizens think:

• Glad to know that both of u have discuss about the future together. This is what my partner and I did at the very beginning of our relationship too. We have to make sure our goals actually align before going deeper into it.

• Bro you strike the real TOTO, 90% of the garbage outside expect rich man pick up the garbage from the floor and rescue them from poverty.

• Marry local pay, marry foreign pay. Which one pay less take care better? Obvious answer

I’ll never forget the moment I opened my university acceptance letter. I had worked hard all through high school, and I was finally going to be able to make something of myself.

I was going to be the first in my family to get a degree.

But, just a few months into university, I realized that I was way over my head. I had been accepted to a prestigious university, but I was woefully unprepared. I was completely overwhelmed, and I couldn’t keep up with the other students.

I ended up dropping out after just a semester.

I was embarrassed and ashamed. Everyone in my family had expected so much of me, and I had let them down. I felt like a failure.

That’s when I decided to make a change. I was no longer going to let my failures define me. Instead, I was going to focus on improving myself. I decided to start working out, and I quickly transformed my body. I was no longer skinny and scrawny; I was now muscular and handsome.

But I wasn’t done yet. I wanted to take things to the next level. So, I decided to get some plastic surgery. I got some liposuction to get rid of my double chin, and I had my nose and chin reshaped. I also got my teeth whitened and my hair styled.

The results were amazing.

I was no longer the scrawny, nerdy kid I had been in high school. I was now a handsome, muscular man. I was confident and charismatic.

I decided to use my new look to make some money. I became a gigolo. I worked as an escort, and I made a lot of money. I was able to support myself and even send some money back home to my family.

It’s been a few years since I dropped out of university, and I’m still working as a gigolo. I’ve been able to save up enough money to buy a nice house, and I’m now able to provide for myself and my family.

I’m still embarrassed about my past failures, but I’ve learned from them. I’m still working on my degree, but I’m taking it one step at a time. I’m not giving up, and I’m determined to make something of myself.

My story is one of resilience and determination. I may have failed my university studies, but I didn’t give up. I worked hard to improve myself, and I was able to turn my life around. I’m proud of the person I’ve become, and I’m grateful for the opportunities that life has given me.