I was so excited to finally be an adult. I was looking forward to being able to go to bars and clubs and drink legally. I thought it was going to be so much fun.

Little did I know that it was going to become a way for me to waste my parent’s money.

My friends and I started going out every weekend to different bars and clubs. We would buy expensive drinks and it was so much fun. We never thought about how much money we were spending. We were just having a good time.

One night, one of my friends introduced me to a guy. He was a bit older than us and had a lot of money. He said he could get us into any bar or club and he would buy us really expensive drinks. We thought it was great and agreed to go out with him.

At first, it was really fun. We got into the best clubs and he bought us expensive drinks. We drank a lot and it was a great time. But then, he started telling us that we should drink so much that we would vomit and waste our parent’s money.

At first, I thought he was joking. But then, I realized he was serious. He kept telling us that if we drank enough, it would be like wasting our parent’s money. He said it was a great way to get back at our parents for not giving us enough money.

I was shocked. I couldn’t believe that he wanted us to drink and vomit just to waste our parent’s money. I knew it was wrong and I told him that I wasn’t going to do it.

My friends, however, thought it was a great idea. They started drinking more and more until they were throwing up. They said it was a great way to get back at our parents for not giving us enough money.

I was disgusted. I couldn’t believe that my friends were doing this just to waste their parent’s money. I knew it was wrong and I tried to talk them out of it, but they wouldn’t listen.

Eventually, I just stopped going out with them and him. I couldn’t take it anymore. I knew it was wrong and I wanted no part of it.

I’m not sure what happened to my friends. I haven’t seen them since. I hope they realized how wrong it was and stopped doing it. I know it was a terrible way to waste their parent’s money.

I learned a valuable lesson that night. Drinking can be fun, but it should never be used as a way to waste someone’s hard-earned money. Drinking can be a great way to have fun, but it should never be used to hurt someone.

I had a dream that my Army Encik was calling for ‘Standby Universe’.

I was standing in formation with my platoon, fully dressed in military fatigues and waiting for orders. But instead of orders, my Encik said ‘Standby Universe’.

At first, I didn’t understand what he meant. I knew the order was important, but I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. I looked around me, hoping that someone could explain what was going on. Everyone else seemed just as confused as I was.

The dream felt so real. I could feel the sweat dripping down my face as I stood there. I could smell the salty air of the sea as the waves crashed against the shore. I could hear the sound of the wind blowing through my hair.

The dream went on for what felt like hours. I kept waiting for someone to tell me what to do, but nobody did.

Then, suddenly, I was jolted awake by a loud, piercing noise. It sounded like a siren. Startled, I sat up in bed, my heart racing. I looked around me, disoriented, trying to figure out where the noise was coming from.

It was only then that I realised I had been dreaming. I was in my own bedroom, not on a military base. I was relieved to realise this, but I was still shaken by the dream.

In my dream, my Army Encik had been calling for ‘Standby Universe’, but I had no idea what it meant in the dream. But I knew exactly what it was after I woke up.

I lay in bed for a few minutes, my mind racing. I was still trying to make sense of it all when I felt tears streaming down my face. I was crying in my sleep.

I was so confused and scared. I had no idea why I was having this dream, or what it meant. All I knew was that it had scared me deeply. I felt like I was in a nightmare that I couldn’t wake up from.

I lay in bed for a while, trying to compose myself. Eventually, I dozed off again.

The next morning, I woke up feeling a little better. I still felt shaken by the dream, but I was no longer scared. I knew that it was just a dream and that I was safe.

I spent the day thinking about the dream. I kept wondering what it meant, and why I had had it. I was still completely baffled.

Army days have definitely scarred me.

Can I cancel my subscription to being an adult? It isn’t for me

Why does life have to be so dang hard?! This has been the worst year financially for me. I have $16 left to my name for two weeks.

How are we expected to live like this? I work full time and it still isn’t enough. Unfortunately I’m in 20 thousand dollars of debt.

I have two kids (one being a baby so formula is now an expense- not complaining about that bc baby needs to eat!).

I can’t really get a second job because I have no childcare or help. I just feel like I am drowning. I can’t give up bc my kids need me but man this is hard.

I shouldn’t have to choose between paying the electric bill or buying food ugh. Just needed a safe space to vent bc I have no family or friends. Sad today.

It started out as a joke. My boyfriend and I had been talking about our relationship and he made a comment about how he was bigger than most guys.

That made me laugh and I jokingly said, “Maybe you can be my banana!” Little did I know that it would become a running joke between us and that I would soon find out just how big his “banana” really was.

It all started when we decided to take things to the next level one night. We had been dating for a few months and were both ready to take things further. We started with some heavy petting and then things started to get a little more serious. We were both inexperienced and I was a bit nervous but I figured it would be okay.

Unfortunately, I was wrong. When he finally entered me, I felt a sharp pain unlike anything I had ever experienced before. It was so intense that I had to stop him and it took me a few minutes to catch my breath. When I finally did, I realized that his “banana” was a bit too big for me.

At first, I thought that maybe I was just being a baby and that I would get used to it. But no matter how hard we tried, it was always too much for me. I was always in pain and I was starting to get sore throats from the effort. I knew I had to do something, so I finally decided to talk to him about it.

I told him that his “banana” was a bit too big for me and that it was causing me a lot of pain. He was very understanding and started to be extremely gentle. But it was not working and we had to break up.

At first, I was worried that I would never find someone who was the right size for me. But I eventually found a guy who was just right. We have now been together for several months and I couldn’t be happier.

It was a difficult conversation to have but it was worth it in the end. I know now that size really doesn’t matter. As long as you and your partner are both comfortable, that’s all that matters.

I’m irrationally scared of taking showers.

I (26 F) Sometimes go days to weeks without taking showers, people have said stuff out of concern and I just play it off like I’m “lazy” but really:

I don’t like being cold and I can only keep the water so hot before it burns, but outside of the water is cold. I have a space heater in my bathroom but it doesn’t really do much.

I’m scared of ghosts and for whatever reason that fear is amplified in the shower.

I live alone and I have this fear that someone is going to break into my apartment while I’m in the shower (despite the 2 heavy duty locks I have) and that adds to the fear that my cats are going to get hurt, and I don’t care what happens to me but I couldn’t live with myself if my babies got hurt.

It’s so embarrassing and I’m even more embarrassed because I’m going to be turning 27 in March and I’m scared of the shower. It’s no wonder I don’t have any friends.

I’m sure many people have heard of the infamous “Countdown Party”. It’s a tradition for many, especially young people.

It’s a night of anticipation and celebration. The idea is to spend the whole night going from one venue to the next, celebrating the coming of the new year.

But for me, it’s a total waste of time. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against celebrating the new year, I just don’t see the point of going through the hassle of a huge party.

The biggest problem with the countdown party is that it’s really expensive. You have to pay for tickets, drinks, and transportation. It also takes up a lot of time. You need to make arrangements to get to the venues, wait in line, and then get home in the early hours of the morning. All of this adds up to a huge cost and wasted time.

And what do you get out of it? Sure, you get to celebrate the new year with your friends, but really, it’s the same as hanging out with them on any other day. It’s just a huge hassle.

But the biggest problem with the countdown party is that it doesn’t really change anything. It’s just one night. The next day you wake up and it’s the same as it was before. You still have to eat and shit like any other day.

So why bother going through all the hassle? Why waste your money and time on something that doesn’t really change anything?

Got new year no new year also must eat and pang sai like any other day.

In my opinion, the best way to celebrate the new year is to have a more personal celebration. Spend time with your closest friends, have a nice dinner, and just talk. That’s it. No need to go out to a club or spend money on expensive drinks.

And let’s not forget the most important part: reflecting on the year that has passed. You can think about the good moments and the bad, and plan for the year ahead. That’s a much better way to spend the night and welcome the new year.

At the end of the day, the countdown party is just a big hassle. You spend a lot of money and time, and get nothing in return. That’s why I think it’s a waste of time.

I’m sure there are people who enjoy it, but for me, I’d rather have a more intimate celebration. That way I can really reflect on the year that has passed and look forward to the year ahead. That’s the best way to celebrate the new year.

Yep, pretty much what I put in the header. My boyfriend ‘Tom’ and I have been dating for 1.5 years. He’s always been very touchy and sweet. He was always hugging his friends and holding hands with everyone (guys and girls). I’m actually not that touchy but he didn’t seem to mind.

Now about 3 months ago, Tom has met a new female coworker ‘Lisa’ and they became friends REALLY quickly. At first I was fine with it because Tom has a lot of girl friends and I’m not a controlling type. (Even though this Lisa was very very pretty, which made me feel kinda conscious.)

But stuff are turning weird lately. He spends a lot of time with Lisa, they cuddle together and he even gives her foot rubs. And when I told him about how it makes me feel weird, he said that he’s really sorry, he didn’t really realize how it would make me feel.

That they are just really good friends and that’s it, and that Lisa just happened to be a very touchy person as well so it works for them. He told me again that they are just friends and nothing more, and that he loves me. He told me that he’s ready to cut off ties with Lisa if I wanted him to.

I just don’t know what to think. What do y’all make of the situation? I really don’t wanna be that person that’s like “choose me or her” but I just feel really weird about him and Lisa.

Thoughts?

I was so confused when my girlfriend asked me to give her 999 roses to prove my genuine love for her.

I had never heard of such a thing before, and I couldn’t understand why she would ask for something so outrageous. I knew I loved her deeply, so why did I need to buy her so many roses?

I wanted to make her happy and prove my love, but I just didn’t know how.

I thought about it for a few days and eventually decided to take her out for dinner at KFC instead. I knew it wasn’t the same as giving her 999 roses, but I figured it was the best I could do.

When I asked her why she wanted 999 roses in the first place, she said it was because she wanted to know how much I truly loved her. I tried to explain to her that I didn’t need to give her anything to prove my love, but she said she still wanted to see the gesture.

When I brought her to KFC, she was really excited. She ordered her favourite meal and I paid for it. I asked her if she was happy with the surprise and she said she was.

But then, when I asked her why she wanted 999 roses in the first place, she said that it was because she wanted to know how much I truly loved her. I tried to explain to her that I didn’t need to give her anything to prove my love, but she said she still wanted to see the gesture.

At this point, I was starting to get frustrated. Why couldn’t she just accept my gift? I had gone out of my way to make her happy and she still wasn’t satisfied.

That’s when I said something that I probably shouldn’t have. I said, “Buy flowers for what? Can’t even eat!”

My girlfriend was obviously taken aback by my comment and I immediately regretted it. I apologized profusely and tried to explain that I didn’t mean it in a bad way. I told her that I was just upset because she was asking for something that was impossible for me to give her.

My girlfriend eventually forgave me and we ended up having a great night. We talked and laughed until late in the night, and I realized that this was all that really mattered. Even though I couldn’t give her 999 roses, I had still done something special for her and she appreciated it.

I [36M] dated someone [34F] for 8 months, and she blocked me after texting that this was the happiest she’s ever been in a relationship.

We met on a dating app on Feb 2022. Talked for a month. Met for drinks. Hit it off. Started seeing each other regularly.

Fast forward 8 months, to October/November. We go on a great fancy dinner date. We had a lot of fun.

I get sick and can’t see her for 2 weeks. At the end of my sickness, I text and ask when she is free.

She responds “I’m glad you’re feeling better! This is really hard for me to send, you made me the happiest I’ve ever been in a relationship. This was the best relationship of my life, but our schedules are intense. You’re a great person and I love you. But let’s call it.”

She then blocked me.

It’s been 2-3 months. I’m still blocked on everything and I’m in the worst time of my life.

I haven’t been able to move on. I think about her everyday. Mutual friends have told me she is not dating and just sitting at home, upset.

I want to break no contact by writing her a letter, or knocking on her door.

I know that is a bad idea, but I don’t know what else to do. I want to respect her boundaries, but I’m beside myself.

Any advice on how to let it go? Or what to do?