How to politely tell my (f20) boyfriend (m25) he is terrible in bed

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. In most aspects is the best relationship of my life. He’s the nicest guy, he treats me amazingly, he’s handsome, hard-working and just the total package.

He does however fail in bed. Without being too gross, it’s not a size issue but it’s just bad. He’s not a very generous lover. I don’t hold this against him,

I love him, I just want to maybe like subtly hint at my dissatisfaction. Is there a smart way to do this?

I know some men take criticisms of their ability very personally and the last thing I want to do is hurt his feelings or come off as rude or abrasive.

I need a nice way to discuss this, any tips would be lovely

Netizen’s comments

Don’t be subtle – he’ll miss it, most likely. Sit him down and talk to him like an adult.

My ex- always used to say “If you can’t talk about it, you probably shouldn’t be doing it”. This is a significant part of your relationship, and may point to other red flags in the relationship, like not considering your needs/wants/preferences in other life decisions.

Set the boundary now, or you’re going to resent him more and more as time goes by.

i am the girlfriend, i am just telling probably the funniest incident between me and my boyfriend whomst ive been with for a year.

me and my boyfriend were laying in bed one night, mind u he falls asleep much faster than i do.

he sleeps like a rock but has very vivid dreams, he does the usual sleep talking and moving around. but this night in particular was different.

i had finally gone to sleep and my boyfriend was moving as per usual. he was probably having a nightmare and ends up waking me up with his moving and mumbling.

i turn over to face him and next thing i know, my face is met with his fist. right on the nose and my sleepy tired voice goes “ow babe :(“ to which he replies half asleep “im sorry babe, i thought you were Johnny Sins”.

the next morning, here is the story i am presented with: “Babe, i had such a weird dream. Johnny Sins was in it and he kept trying to screw me.

it woke me up a little and i thought he was in the bed so i started throwing punches.”

My boyfriend thought i was Johnny Sins.

I think my girlfriend hired someone to see if I would cheat

A couple months ago I receive a text from a girl asking if I wanted to go out. I was confused at first because I didn’t recognize the number. After awhile of not responding she sent me a scandalous picture of herself in a sports bra saying that we met at a work party that she accompanied a coworker to.

Only a few people outside of my work knew I was at that event so this was more than just a scam text it seemed. I got worried that my gf would see these messages so I showed her and asked her if she knew who this girl was.

She laughed and said she didn’t and I thought her reaction to it all was weird because my gf has been cheated on a lot in the past so I thought it was weird she laughed and was so relaxed about it.

Flash forward a couple months, my girlfriend comes into the room while I’m working and tells me about this TikTok person she follows who hires herself out to people who want to see if their partners will cheat. People give her their significant others information and she contacts them to see if they’ll take the bait and cheat.

My gf tells me this crazy story about it and I jokingly say “Was that the girl who messaged me the other month? Did you hire someone to see if I’d cheat on you? Lol”. Then she got a panicked look on her face and stared off into space for a second. We just kind of look at each other for a moment and she abruptly tells me no then looks at her phone and paces out of the room.

Her reactions to the whole situation make me feel like she actually hired this person to see if I’d take the bait. If so I guess I passed the test.

Has this happened to anyone else? Is this a thing in modern relationships?