My partner and I moved to a pretty remote area in the west side about a year ago and we have been struggling to make friends.

I’ve been in Company A for 6.5yrs. I was first hired as an accounts assistant. But subsequently the boss promoted me to do Sales and Marketing along with HR and Accounting work.

Along the way, I realised I don’t like the Sales and Marketing job scope. I no longer do accounts despite me approaching my boss numerous times that I prefer accounting job.

I have 2 young kids and my boss has been very kind and understanding towards me taking urgent leaves etc. My salary started off with $1.8k to now at $3.5k which I’m truly grateful. (I only have an A Level and Private Diploma in Accounting & Finance)

The first time I resigned was when I was 2years into the job. But he retained me and i stayed on on the condition that i will no longer handle sales and marketing.

Fast forward to last year, after coming back from maternity leave, I realised he changed my job scope without discussing with me first. He has yet again thrown sales and marketing to me again. I’ve tried dealing with it for a year but because I do not enjoy what I was doing, I didn’t do a great job in following up. Hence this sometimes led to him scolding me. Which I feel that it is unfair as I’ve told him many times I don’t like this job and he kinda ask me just to help him as he needs someone trustworthy.

I started sending resume last month. Out of the 30 resumes I’ve sent out, only 2 called back and 1 wanted to hire me. I understand that my currently salary is inflated than compared to what experience I have. Of course I’m looking at the direction of getting more experience in accounting and finance rather than just like being a PA to him.

Prospective Company B initially offered me 3.2k and I wanted to accept it. But after tendering, my boss talked to me and finally agreed to take away the sales and marketing portion. After much consideration, I turned down Company B as it was a huge paycut of 3.6k/annual and also because Company A promised to take away the part that I did not enjoy. 2 days later Company B called me to offer again. They are willing to match my current salary and I am given a chance to learn financial reporting which I didn’t have a chance in Company A.

I’m truly at a loss. Should I stay on at Company A or move on to Company B? The thing is, I’m very comfortable at where I am at now. But if I decided to stay on, then I will need to stay and work there till I die kind cos another 5yrs i will be 40yo. 3.5k for an accounts staff without full set of exposure is very hard to get a job paying 3.5k. Most jobs that were offering 3.5k needs to have exposure of full set accounts. In a way I’m worried for my future. I’m good for Company A but it isn’t good for my experience. Hopefully this post gets approved as I need to give Company B an answer by Friday.

I have made many bad financial decisions since i started working in 2011. Recently i fall into a job scam and lost about $45000, and that is the last straw. Since then, i haven’t been myself.

I decided to do a tabulation, and all in all, for the past 11 years or so, i have lost at least $200 000 (bad investment, stocks, forex, scam etc). My husband also lost quite a bit of money in the stock market (about $150 000). All these are very painful experience as i do not earn much (Started with 2k+ per month, and now hitting 5k+ per month). My husband left his job previously and is not working for the past few years as he is pursuing further studies. We have no children and we stay in a HDB.

Based on my single income, we can still manage a decent living. However, every time i think about the financial loss we had, it will bring chills. We could have paid off our housing loan or have enjoyed more with our earnings rather than saving them away and “investing” it, with now ended with nothing. It is years of hard work and very thrifty lifestyle. Although i have some emergency, i can’t help but to feel very “poor” and insecure.

I don’t know what i should do. I seems to have lost myself and don’t have the passion to do anything. Other than working and going home, i don’t even feel like stepping out of the house. Since i am clearing my leave recently, i have been staying home for the past one week, doing nothing and just watching drama brainlessly, sleeping at 4am and waking up after 11am. I didn’t even feel like step out of the house or talk to anyone. I have a list of things that i wanted to do but i just don’t feel like it.

Is this normal? What can i do to recover?

Hes very nice but might be moving, so we decided to be casual until he makes a decision but we have both stated we are open to a relationship if all stays well, well its been a month, and the more i see him, the more apparent it becomes that if S was off the table, we would not be a good fit

Hes very aggressive and im very sensitive, and our conversation just does not flow well, we just have amazing
“bed time”. im going to give it one last hangout to try and get a real conversation going but if it fails then i want to tell him I don’t see it becoming more than this.

I feel bad and almost like he’s waiting to see how we turn out to decide if he wants to move or not so im feeling pressure to speed it up and make a decision as to not lead him on, once i decide how im feeling. he will definitely ask me why, and i want to know what to say, and can i do it over text, he lives 30 min away and i don’t want to drive that far just to tell him i only see us as a casual thing now, i feel bad because i agreed i could see us being in a relationship, but the more we hang out the less i feel that way, I feel like i walk on eggshells around him and he’s always pissy over something.

he seems like hes always annoyed at me and whether its just his personality or not, i take stuff personally so his sarcasm and mine just wouldnt mesh

I’m scare he feels that I’m only using him for “special”. But it actually is.

I have a confession. I am a big man with a small manhood. It might sound stupid, but this is something that makes me embarrassed and unconfident.

To be specific, I am 1.86m tall. People who have seen me might get the impression that down there is big, hard and rock solid. Truth is, it is barely 8cm when fully erect. When it is flacid, it can’t even be seen. This is why I shave, so that it can at least be seen. This is real cringe. When I last celebrated my birthday, I wished for my p*nis to grow bigger.

Both my 2 ex-girlfriends have showed astonishment at its size. I have no idea. I don’t compare sizes with other people, or even talk about it. But they mentioned that I am way below the average size, and that it was much smaller than they have expected. I felt so lousy about myself. Now that I think about it, how would they know what is average? Have they seen enough penises to make a fair judgement?

There was an incident in which my last girlfriend asked “Is it in?” Things were actually going well, but once I heard that, I became anxious and my whole body just shut down. I could not even perform the deed, and that was the last time I ever got intimate with someone. She broke up with me soon after.

That was 2 years ago. I now have a new gf, the 3rd one. We haven’t slept together yet, I would always give the excuse to wait until we graduate, so that it can be extra special. I told her that this is the responsible thing to do. Of course, I did not mean it. Truth is, I am very afraid that the same thing might happen again. Lucky for me, she did not take it negatively but instead expressed that it was sweet of me to think of it this way. Because of this, she feels doubly assured that I love her for who she is, rather than just wanting her physically. Well, she has no clue of what really is going on.

Next academic year will be our final one, and I only have a short time to get my shit together. I am now saving up money to possibly go for treatments to increase its size. But I am worried for my finances too. Such procedures will definitely cost a lot. And business school fresh grads usually don’t get very high starting pay. I have very little knowledge in this area, and I don’t know how much exactly it will cost and how long it will take. Can someone give advice on this, either in a reply or in a separate whisper?

And guys, if you don’t sharing in the comments, can I know 3 things?

1) What is the length of your thing when it is at rest?

2) What is the length when it is at full stretch?

3) How tall are you?

Pls Help!

So I’ve been having a weird time with my bf. Over the past 6 months, I’ve been planning on stopping my bc. I’ve been on it for roughly 4.5 years (6 months for acne issues, 4 years being “active” with my bf). Ever since I stopped, he hasn’t been acting like himself.

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