what do you think of ambitious colleagues?

I mean it is good for them, I wish them well when they worked really hard trying to advance their career or doing something new outside of their job scope. But sometimes it just makes me really stressed out.

Both of us are fresh grads, I joined like 6 mths before this guy, and our job scopes are similar, with similar pay range. But he seems to always go the extra mile to do stuff. Like during meetings, we are supposed to just show our work progress and what we have done for the week, he just seems to have done a lot more, showing stats and graphs and analytics and whatnot that is not really required for the presentation. He also did some stuff out of his job scope, which impressed the managers. Then after a few weeks my manager talked to me saying I need to follow his example to do more when he was happy with my performance before the new guy came in.

I’m not ambitious, just want a job to have a simple life, and because of this colleague, make me feel worthless and not up to the raised new standard. What if another colleague comes in and performs even better?? Is the bar going to be raised higher and higher with the same pay and job level??

I know people will say “oh just level up and keep level up, this just shows how incompetent you are”, but I’m really not interested enough to live a life that way or want to see my job as a never-ending upwards cycle. Ofc if need be, I will gain new skills required but as of now for my current job this stuff is really out of the job scope.

I’m not blaming people for being ambitious or being salty, I just feel that maybe this is just too competitive for me and I should leave instead of being sad that my performance is getting lower in the managers’ eyes despite me trying to do my best for the job I applied for.

Here are what netizens think:

• Nah. You do what you paid to do, within your pay grade and job description. Nobody likes a show off in the long run. Maybe they’ll like him now, but once he can’t keep up with his own abilities and showboating, he’s out.

• You should leave and join a mediocre company that prefers mediocre workers, so that the company with the excellent worker can stop tanking your work

• His just carrying ballz trying to be the next GM. Either he will be your future GM or get thrown out by current GM if he will feel threaten la.

A man who took videos of an elderly man and alleged that the man wanted to follow him into the toilet, even after he was out of the toilet the man approached him.

He tried to shoo the man away to no avail and decided to film the man. The netizen said that he has since reported the incident to the Police.

Here is what he said:

Hey not sure if this is allowed but I wanted to share it to raise awareness.

Was walking around Changi Beach when this guy approached me asking if I was swimming as I was going to the toilet. He then asked if he could follow me into the toilet but obviously I told him no and asked him to go away.

After I got out I walked around again and he somehow managed to find me. This time he asked for my name, where I stayed etc. but I just waved him off and continued walking.

Then about 10-15 minutes later he found me again and then decided to sit beside me. This time asking to be friends and if I was schooling etc. Initially I didn’t want to make a big deal of it but I got more and more annoyed. Then he went on to clarify that he ”liked young guys” and wanted to follow me into the toilet because he wouldn’t know if he could find me again.

I raised my voice then told him to just go away and not waste my time. Initially he refused to but then left when more people came about.

I wasn’t bothered by him, but I also noticed a lot of younger school kids around. So if you’re a parent or teacher bringing your kids or early teens here, do be wary and watch over them as at the beginning he seemed to be loitering around the toilet area.

**UPDATE**

Thanks for the suggestions everyone, I have just made a police report on the matter.

Full Video Loading…

@ahbengloh89

UNCLE FOLLOWED MAN INTO TOILET AT CHANGI BEACH "WANT BE HIS FRIEND"

♬ original sound Ah Beng Commentator

Source:

A man called the fact that I wouldn’t date him ‘discrimination’

‘Do I look like an equal opportunity employer to you?’ is what I wish I could have said. But I couldn’t, and we all know why.

Instead, I had to make myself small, stay ultra alert about my surroundings, and continuously enforce my boundaries, all whilst being terrified. (I was walking alone at night)

Girls and women, I just want you to know that ‘no’ means ‘no’. No matter who it’s from or whatever reason you may or may not have. No should be enough and it’s the end of a complete sentence.

“If a man says no, it’s the end of the discussion. When a woman says no, it’s the beginning of a negotiation.”

Netizens’ comments

• Gross. Did he say why?? I guess I should just be able to get anyone and if not I’m being discriminated against? Make it make sense….
  • He accused me of being classist and only dating ‘wealthier’ men. He also accused me of being spoiled, and for having certain physical preferences. It honestly didn’t make sense to me.

• Dating is inherently discriminatory, or at least should be. Wonder if he considers it discrimination to turn down dating women he considers unattractive 🤔