My partner wants to transition and I feel like I lost the love of my life.

We have been together for nearly seven years, since our schooling days. I love her with all my heart and want to support her in any way I can, but she told me how they feel towards me is now platonic and it really hurts that I can’t be supportive because I know I’m going to lose the person I fell in love with.

It really sucks to mourn the loss of a person who is still alive. This is the end of our relationship and I’m holding her hand while we walk through it together.

Deep inside, I know this will make her so much happier. I hope I can find peace knowing that she is slowly finding herself.

I was gonna propose this year.

Netizens’ comments

• Man that’s rough, hope you find silver lining at the end of this.

• Sorry dude, that’s rough. Sounds like you’re handling this as best as one possibly could. The pain will ease with time, but in the meanwhile hang in there!

• IMO, This person put themselves first and you should too. If it hurts you to walk them through this process then let them figure out someone else to hold their hand through it. It’s not cool to be the only one in agony while you’re propping your partner up. I’m glad they found their happiness, but you should go and do that too

I got really drunk last night and ended up blowing a bunch of money on Macdonald. I spent 44 dollars possibly just on the food. It was at least 44 dollars total.

I first was just gonna get the 2 apple pies then I thought maybe I would get 2 of those and this and that. Then I noticed the nuggets 20 pack. I ate all of them with several burgers.

It’s bad because they did not modify my order when I requested (and paid extra) for special oprder.. no cheese being one. I got extra mayo and all sorts of things but I don’t think I got it.

I am also lactose intolerant and still ate almost everything anyways. It is now early in the morning and my stomach feels bloated and not very good. I thought I was gonna puke earlier but I think I am OK.

I haven’t done this in a long time but I pull a stunt like this every now and then.

I am a bit disappointed in myself too because my original plan was to make chicken and vegetable fried rice. I had just worked 13 days in a row though and was feeling lazy anyways.

Oh well. Life goes on. I guess it’s OK to blow money every now and then and eat unhealthily – it’s not gonna kill me. I just don’t feel great about it. Oh well.

Here are what netizens think:

• I’m really sorry, but I couldn’t help but laugh while reading this. This is such an iconic stoned story, and I’m sure down the road you’ll look back at this and die of laughter

• I mean you could consider it a reward after working for 2 weeks straight. It sounds like a lot of fun tbh

• Damn spending $44 at mac is actually kinda impressive

• I have this issue too. I can’t stop myself from binge eating if I get too drunk

So to start I’m a 19-year-old girl and my BF work at the same place, we have kept our relationship at work secret to minimise unwanted attention and questions about us (we’ve been best friends our whole lives and started dating half a year ago) since we aren’t very social people.

Around a month ago a colleague started to show interest in talking to me after 4 months of just looking at me from a distance, I didn’t mind talking but he began to show signs that he wanted to be more than friends, he had been flirtatious and would open up a lot about sad things and would talk to me every chance he could, I tried to show I wasn’t interested in that way without telling him about my relationship (of which he was already suspicious of) but eventually, I had to tell him about my BF because he was trying to make less subtle advances.

After I told him he was visibly upset and then told me that he did indeed have a “huge crush” on me, to which I said to go on as just friends and to not make anything awkward, (btw we were placed on a station at this time and couldn’t separate) so after this, we’d have to talk every day still, he would blame me for his crush claiming I had led him on and would talk to me a lot in a very perverted way, objectifying me and sexualising me. He would talk about my relationship with my BF making judgements that were completely untrue like saying that our relationship was codependent and weird, seemingly trying to undermine and cause doubts about my relationship.

He’s been trying over and over to get me to go out to the pub (bar) to drink with him and some colleagues, to which I always refuse but he insists telling me that I have to socialise (btw I’m very easy to manipulate which is very obvious to people) he also says that he doesn’t want my BF to come with me, he has spoken to me about “getting high” before and told me he does them a lot and knows how to get them which makes me a little more creeped out.

I have no idea what his intentions are, and I have no idea what he is capable of but it seems quite obvious that he could easily manipulate me into doing things I don’t want to and to take me to places I don’t want to go. He’s made comments about seeing me naked and trying to sleep with me, making comments about my body like noticing my breasts look a little bigger.

But yeah he seems to be trying to interfere with my and my bf, trying to wedge us apart constantly even when we’re talking, and then wants me to go out to places I’m not safe nor comfortable without allowing me to make my own decision. He complains that my bf doesn’t like him but says he should try to get to know him before he makes judgements but then judges our relationship without knowing a single thing about us.

What do I do?

I’ve been that coworker with the seniority/experience and helping train those who are new. I answer their questions or tell them what they did wrong with kindness and understanding. I understand how it is to be new and not fully know everything.

why must there be those coworkers who act like you’re an idiot or give attitude if you don’t know how to do every single thing? I never thought once to be condescending towards someone who is still learning.

For example, instead of my coworker telling me something and explaining why it was wrong, they asked me a question and waited for me to answer then explained it. it was the SIMPLEST, stupidest mistake. sure, I gained some knowledge and will be using that from now on, but I’m not a child. be direct.

While I’m still okay with that attitude but some of them even scream at me for the most minor things. Just imagine the volume is one bus stop away also can hear one.

I’m not sensitive and love to take advice or others’ knowledge from them, but not when it’s said in a demeaning way.

Respect

I tried talking to my boss about it but he just brush me off and said that they are old and we should just leave it and respect them.

In my heart, I was thinking “yes, everyone is different and that’s why the word respect exists”. For me I think respect is something earned and not demanded, I’m not demanding respect from the older workers but I think that everyone deserves a bit of basic respect and not speak to another demanding person like he or here is a child.

To be honest, I’m not that young either and I will never treat others like this. People like that make us want to quit the job I worked hard for.

I’m 20 this year and I have been seeing a guy who is 39 years old for the past six months and when we met he told me he was 31.

We met on a dating app and hit it off immediately. While we are not in a relationship, we agreed early on to be exclusive. Today I did a name search on Google and I found photos and profiles of him and found out that he is actually 39 and I do not know how to confront him with this info because then I’ll have to explain how I found out.

How do I confront him without it seeming like I was snooping/stalking him?

Here are what netizens think:

• You are blind when you see the ku ku bird, as long the ku ku bird is working does it matter?

• You have all the right to confirm what he’s been telling you. If he gets mad for it, and accuses you of not trusting him, he would be just changing topic from the actual problem: he lied.

• You have to decide for yourself if your relationship with him is more important than the fact that he’s been hiding stuff from you. It’s entirely your choice. But as a rule of thumb, if you feel like you can’t discuss a problem with a partner, you should probably move away from them. Your need for truth and stability has to be respected, it shouldn’t have consequences for you, because that’s basically manipulation.

• Girl, I mean this as kindly as possible, but the fact that this (potentially hurting his feelings and/or him having a bad opinion of you) is your main concern, instead of “how do I dump this creep ASAP” is exactly why he’s seeking out S with women almost 20 years younger than him.

A netizen shared how his girlfriend wants him to get rid of his cat.

Here is the story

I can’t believe I’m about to type this but here we go.

I’ve been dating my GF for 7 months. She’s amazing and we’re super compatible in a lot of ways. She is an outspoken vegan, and she made it clear at the start of our relationship that it was important to her that any potential had similar cruelty-free values. Me, already being a pescatarian, had little difficulty transitioning to a fully plant based diet. My GF was proud of me for going cruelty free and everything seemed well. We became “the vegan couple” on our college campus.

Then there is my cat, Mittens… I’ve had her for three years and I adore her. She’s such a sweet and cuddly cat. However, my GF was always a little apprehensive around her, and she blamed it on not growing up around cats. After a while we sort of made a tacit agreement to mostly hang out at her apartment instead of mine, so Mittens never really came up again in conversation.

Fast forward through all the quarantine stuff… My gf and I have spent a lot of time together during this pandemic and we’ve started talking about taking our relationship to the next level. We began seriously looking at either buying a new apartment together or having one of us move in with the other.

However, after a lot of talking and planning, my GF sat me down and dropped a bomb shell on me. She said that with this next phase of the relationship, she did not see a future with me unless I was willing to give away Mittens. She said that she believed owning a cat is unconscionable for vegans, because they hunt mice and eat meat, and because the very act of owning a pet is a violation of vegan principles.

I was stunned. I told her that I was absolutely not willing to give up Mittens, and she had no choice but to eat meat so I was reducing harm as much as possible by buying reputable brands of cat food. Plenty of vegans own cats and think along those same lines. My gf got mad and said “how much flesh does your cat eat? How many animals died to make all that food? Would you be okay with that being human flesh?”

I got mad and told my GF that I would have really appreciated her telling me about her cat opinions before we got serious. She went on and on about cats killing animals. I ended the conversation there. I was so angry that I left my gfs apartment. And I snuggled with Mittens when I got home! Although the mood soured a bit when my GF sent me a link to a Reddit thread advocating for the extinction of domestic cats. Sigh

I think it goes without saying that I am not going to get rid of my cat. However, it pains me to think that an otherwise wonderful relationship could be ending because of a difference in ideology. I don’t even really understand where my GF is coming from because like I said, a lot of vegans own cats. Now granted, cat ownership can be a controversial topic in vegan circles and I probably would not have gotten a cat if I had been vegan at the time, but I have Mittens now, and she deserves to eat. (Yes, I’ve researched vegan cat food, but Mittens has some digestive issues and my vet strongly cautions against it.)

I’ve talked to some of my vegan and vegetarian friends and they all think my gf has lost her mind. Some have suggested that it’s not about Mittens and my gf just wants an excuse to end it. They probably don’t understand why I haven’t broken up yet, but I care about my GF so much. I’d hate for this bizarre curve ball to be the end of a beautiful thing. I want to try and work something out.

Where do I even go from here? I will not compromise on Mittens and I don’t think my GF will compromise either.

Editor’s note: Your girlfriend is crazy.

My friends and I all had a week off after we finished our exams so we decided to go on a one day staycation together. It’s usually me, two other guys and two girls in our group.

But this time we agreed to let this girl come with us cuz we kind of felt bad that she seemed to not have much of a life outside of school. We had hung out with her a few times before and didn’t exactly vibe with her but we thought this would be a good opportunity to try and get her loose now that the semester was over.

So we’re able to get adjoining rooms and we split up into the guys on one side and the girls on the other side. We visited each other freely throughout when we weren’t out and pretty much only stayed in our own rooms when we were ready to go to sleep.

This happened last night and I type this from my room as we haven’t left for home yet. Two nights ago we all watched this movie. It was a comedy and in one of the scenes this guy comes in and talks to the guest in his underwear with his ding dong sticking out under them. We all thought it was pretty absurd and funny.

So the next night I decided that I would recreate the scene. Our group has a weird dynamic so I thought we’d all get a kick out of it. My penis is nothing any of them haven’t seen before, except for our plus one girl. So I pull the bit on my guys first and they find it funny. So I decide to go over to the girls and do it. Since I didn’t know how the other girl would react I waited until she left the room to go grab something.

So with my penis sticking out of my underwear, I go over to the girls’ room and recreate the scene. They loved it, they were cracking up. In the middle of me doing it, the other girl comes back, I thought I covered up before she got back in because I did it as soon as I heard the door. But apparently she saw it, and she absolutely freaked out.

Literally everyone was trying to tell her to be cool but she wasn’t having it. I left the room and I got close to the wall hearing her literally screaming thinking everyone was in agreement that I was wrong. But everyone else thought it was funny. She was beyond pissed at me and said that she should call my parents.

This is all over a joke that I was trying to make sure she wasn’t a part of in the first place. But now she’s mad at me cuz she doesn’t feel the same as everyone else.

Whats wrong sia.

A couple of days ago my wife had a dream where I cheated on her and later leaving her to live with the other woman. She told me about her dream in the morning, clearly distressed. Trying to defuse the situation, I decided to create a funny origin story of the girl I was seeing in her dream. I named her Barney (like the purple dinosaur), and no one actually has this name in SG and I thought it added volume and certain mystery and funny to her character.

The next day I posted a funny comment on a Facebook page, and received a Haha reaction from a user named Barney. I thought it was hilarious and showed it to my wife, who promptly sent me to sleep on the sofa and accuse me of cheating.

This is ridiculous for getting blame for a stupid dream she had. The worse part of this, the person who commented was a guy…

What should I do? She refuses to speak to me.

Here are what netizens think:

• Tell your wife to grow up, tell her you dream she cheating with a purple dinosaur see how she reacts

• I once had a GF who dreamed I cheated on her. She got mad at me, because she claimed it meant I must be doing something to make her subconscious tell her that I was cheating. After we broke up (unrelated to the dream), I found out she had cheated on me several times.

• Normally when someone thinks that their parthner is cheating they are the ones who are cheating and I dare to say it is 90% of the time.

• I have dreams of my bf cheating on me all the time. I just wake up kinda sad and go cuddle him. Having super relastic feeling dreams suck but you can’t take it out on others. I feel the pain of it usually when I wake up but come to reality quickly and just go cuddle. What else is there to possibly do?