I broke my Dad’s super expensive guitar and then blamed my brothers

I’ve got a big family (5 brothers 2 sisters and me…the guitar murderer) and we are all pretty musical. We had a family band growing up and would play and perform all over.

One day somebody left my Dad’s precious guitar on the couch and l I jumped over the back of the couch to sit down and cracked the neck.

I looked around quick and realized no one was there so I bolted. Dad came home saw his guitar and lost it.

My Dad always favored my brothers and I knew he wouldn’t be as mad at them as he would at me if I broke it so I said they were rough-housing all day in the living room.

He basically did nothing as I’d anticipated. I still feel bad. Not for lying to my Dad but for breaking that beautiful guitar.

It was a high end Gibson.

I was on a first date with a guy after being arranged by a friend, and it was the worst date I’ve ever been on in my life.

He told me that he was from a “top JC” and went on to boast how his father has a PhD and they are living in a Good Class Bungalow.

He said that he want to save $1m by the age of 30 and that he is currently working in a bank.

I asked him what is a Good Class Bungalow and he said “you don’t know meh?” that oh it’s a “high SES” thing, not many people know.

He was also damn rude to the servers where we were having our meal, getting his attention by shouting “HELLO?!” without saying please or thank you or anything.

He asked me what my parents worked as and I said my mother was a housewife and my dad was a taxi driver.

He then asked me if I was studying my degree to get out of poverty (I’m pursuing my degree at the moment), and I said no, we are not poor. My mother works part time and I can take care of myself.

He then went on to say how can that be? taxi driver don’t earn much money.

I told him not to stereotype other people without knowing anything.

After the meal (I paid for my own share), he asked if he could send me home in his Lamborghini, to which I rejected him and said I’ll just take the MRT.

He then said “you probably have never sat inside a Lamborghini before cause you’re poor”, to which i got angry and told him that his car clearly belongs to his father.

“Why, you got no money to buy your own car is it. You think your father’s car gonna impress me?”

He then went on to say that he could probably hire my father to be his personal driver, and then he called me a “gold digging b—-“.

I just walked away from that ahole, trying my hardest not to slap him in the face.

I don’t think I will be dating again, for a long while.

Editor’s note:

I am getting married to my fiance in May.

I was adopted when I was a baby and my adoptive parents (50s) did their best to raise me and support me through uni. We always had a good relationship and I obviously love them.

When I was 23 I decided to search for my biological parents,and long story short they were teenagers(14) when they had me. They are still together and they have 2 more children. They said they wanted to keep me but they couldn’t raise me so they decided to put me up for adoption. The thing that really hurt me was that in my childhood and teenage years they tried to contact my adoptive parents and have a relationship with me, but my adoptive parents refused.

When I confronted my adoptive parents they said that they were afraid that I might prefer my biological parents, so they tried to keep them away.

I was hurt and disappointed and decided to go low contact. Over the years we managed to build a better relationship but it’s not like before.

So ,for my wedding I decided to ask my biological father to walk me down the aisle and he obviously said yes. When my adoptive parents learnt it they were hurt and said that their worst fear had come to reality and if I insist to put my biological parents before them then I shouldn’t invite them to the wedding.

My answer was that they are not invited then. Since then all my adoptive family are calling a piece of S

I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, his son was 3 when I met him. He’s grown up around me, and he now lives with us full-time because his mother mistreats him.

Last night: I’m a 35 year old, overweight woman. I wear high-waisted long bike shorts and sports bras to bed, and it was our two year old’s bedtime when I was getting out of the shower.

Since I usually head to bed after the baby goes down, I came out in my sleepwear to pick the baby up and put him to bed.

My stepson and husband were chilling and my stepson, 13, asked if I was gonna do yoga. I’m literally more covered than if I wear a swimsuit, but my husband said this morning that I need to cover up around our son if he’s making comments.

I kind of bristled at the idea for a couple of reasons, one: I’m his stepmom, but I can’t wear the same clothes around him that I wear around the other kids and my husband in the house?

Two: it feels a bit like victim blaming when women are always told to cover up their bodies to “reduce distraction/temptation” for young men.

I do understand where he’s coming from. Our kid is 13 and hormonal, but I feel like if you make it inappropriate then that’s the real issue.

I don’t know, I’m probably overthinking this.

Netizen’s comments

The way you describe your outfit, it’s hardly inappropriate. The comment from your stepson wasn’t inappropriate either. I’d say your husband needs to get his mind out of the gutter.

I yell at my mom and telling her to grow up.

I am 29, 3 kids. My mom was married to Eric(step father) from when I was a preteen. It lasted a few years and ended really badly.

My mom wasn’t blameless for the relationship issues or how the end of it went down but Eric did cheat on her which was a bigger offence. She’s understandably still resentful even 16 years later and doesn’t talk to Eric.

I drifted from both Eric and his family post-divorce, of course. But I ended up becoming much closer to my (former) stepsister than I ever was as a preteen as an adult. We now babysit for each other’s kids all the time and she’s my best friend of 8 or so years.

Due to my relationship with her and because he was always a good stepdad to me at least, Eric and his now-wife are also involved in our lives, not as much as my mom but my kids still call them Grandpa and Grandma.

They’re also both retired. My mom still works M-F 9-5 and doesn’t get a lot of time off, so even though I’m still close to my mom and think of her first when it comes to grandma duties/privileges, they are almost always willing to be a backup and I trust my kids with them.

This week my husband’s brother had a serious health crisis so we’ve needed more babysitting support from my side of the family than usual. I knew my mom was working so I called Eric and asked if they could take the kids from 12-8, they said yes but only until 6 pm. I said np, and called my mom and said, “Hey would you be able to swing by after your work and pick up the kids from Eric and keep them until 8?”

My mom was annoyed at the idea of having contact with Eric but said okay and I gave her their address.

At 2pm I get a call from Eric saying that my mom had taken the afternoon off and was there for the kids. In the moment, I said okay yes that’s fine because my kids would be fine with my mom, I knew. But I was also thinking WTF why is she 4 hours early.

Eric said she showed up and was passive-aggressively demanding “her” grandchildren and saying she didn’t want them cooped up and posturing and being petty. My mom’s version is much the same, and she was almost laughing like she’d gotten one over on them, especially eric’s wife who she detests.

If there was any doubt that she had just innocently wanted to spend more time with her grandkids, I’d feel differently, but she all but admitted that she was just being petty. I got mad at her attitude and told her to grow up and said she’d broken my trust and been petty and if she was going to be a child about it then clearly she couldn’t be trusted with actual children. I also accused her of breaking our “don’t talk negatively about Eric in front of the kids” rule though she argued she didn’t say anything negative.

But I do feel bad because she was technically doing me a favor and out of context her actions were innocent. And the kids had a nice lunch with her and she spent money on them. And she does have her reasons to dislike Eric, so maybe it’s my fault for putting her in that situation.

How do you know if it’s time to stop trying for a girl?

I like this girl, and have been trying to find ways to tell her that I feel something. She responds positively to my compliments and we have normal conversations. I find opportunities to offer her that extra ticket to an event that I want to give her, but so far twice she said she was busy.

How to sense if its an indication of disinterest or if she genuinely is busy and actually did not think much about my offer?

Here are what netizens think:

• You already got the answer to the question. Let me tell you, if someone is interested in you, you don’t have to try so hard and you will get their consent to go out. Learn to read all these signs so you won’t bang your head against the wall. Why not work on yourself and shine and you will see the result.

• Why not wait for the ladies to express interest in you instead? Much less effort required.

• Best way is to stop trying. Then a few days later will have a new post saying:” this boy who was chasing me suddenly stopped trying……”

• Go meet other girls and let her know about it. Girl generally will only take notice in the face of competition. If she doesn’t, mean you 100% no chance.

• [1] she is genuinely busy [2] she doesn’t give af [3] try other women [4] stop writing in for silly advice to simple problems

• If a girl is interested in you, she will find time for you. No one will waste time on unimportant stuff

• She’s rejecting you gently and you still don’t know. If she likes you she would have made an effort to spend time alone with you.

• Twice rejected – means not interested. Usually if the girl reciprocates, she will not turn down an invitation from the guy who took the initiative. Move on loh.

Anecdotally, how bad are you experiencing shrinkflation?

Today I ordered dinner for myself through Deliveroo. I used to love their bowls because the portions are always so huge I have a little bit left over for a snack later if I’m hungry. I hadn’t ordered in awhile so I thought why not.

Once the food arrived though I noticed it’s substantially smaller and less than it used to be while still being more expensive.

Feels like shrinkflation hit especially hard this year and it’s not just this restaurant which has smaller but yet more expensive portions..

Could be because of the gst hike to 8% which would only make next year worse.. has anyone else been feeling the same way?

Netizens’ comments

1. Eateries always do that kinda crap.
   Ingredients became expensive, so raise the price to cover the cost. Oh yeah, let me cut the portion too, to cut the cost. Don’t forget to give less bonus to the workers while at it. Nice side dish? Nah, we don’t do that anymore.
   The problem with them is, when something comes with a price hike, they triple down on it to justify their own greed. When nobody wants to go to their shop anymore, they blame the price hike.
   Like many chicken rice stalls for example, raw chicken becomes +2/3 SGD. 1 chicken on average can serve 10 plates (depending on the store). Each plate they +2 SGD and cut down the amount of chicken meat given at the same time. Good gracious.
2. When chicken become expensive=make smaller charge higher. When chicken become not so expensive=might as well raise the price blaming inflation and other reasons while keeping the smaller portions cos we obviously don’t see people complaining
3. I stopped eating out entirely. It’s not a matter of affordability. It’s about getting your money’s worth.
4. filet o fish. smaller bun and patty, half a slice of cheese instead of a full slice.
   absolutely hate shrinkflation. i mean, i don’t mind paying a bit more for the same product given rising costs, but at least give me the same product instead of a smaller/lousier one.
   edit: several replies below have indicated that it has always been half a slice of cheese, so i could be wrong. but either way – half a slice or not – i think most of us can agree that the size of the cheese has shrunk!
5. Deleting grab app has been my best decision recently.

Long story short(ish), a few months ago she came and admitted to me that she had a crush on her coworker, which, I was okay with. Feelings are feelings, and acting on them is a different matter. I’ve had crushes on coworkers before, and shutting that down cold would’ve deprived me of some of my best platonic friendships once the infatuation subsided. I’d be a hypocrite for being the overbearing jealous boyfriend and shutting down a potentially good friendship just cause it’s another dude.

Fast forward a few weeks, and now she’s doggedly asking about opening up our relationship. Obvs I knew what it was about, and my response was an honest “Yeah maybe! But not right now.” and that was the end of it. In the meantime she’s still seeing him at work regularly, and hanging out with him a couple times outside of work, and I’m ignoring that niggling feeling in my brain. (At the same time, our S life was great, which probably helped with looking past some stuff)

Eventually they got hauled up to a manager and reprimanded for being too friendly on the floor and my gf got questioned about her relationship (which, regardless of the situation, isn’t management’s business, imo ) so in the meantime I’m defending her to my coworkers because I still think platonic friendships should be fine and healthy, regardless of gender!

Now in the meantime, one of their after work hangouts she absolutely lied to me about where they were, and I tried to explain it away to myself. After the management incident they haven’t had a chance to hang out, which brings us to the other day. I was using her phone to mass call the passport office before the trip we had planned, and while I was waiting to get through curiosity got the better of me and I ended up two months deep in their text conversation.

Which, before the management stuff, included a couple nudes from her, plenty of sex talk, references to her grabbing his dick at work, all kinds of talk about making out, sneaking around the store, their “car hangouts ” among other stuff.

Tack that onto finding this out literally a week before a three-week vacation with my entire family and I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. I can’t go with her and have this in the back of my brain the entire time, but I also can’t just break up with her and leave her home with all of my stuff for three weeks.

A man was turned off after a potential gf candidate told him that she is looking for a rich that can supplement her lavish lifestyle of going for facial treatments of over S$10,000 and buying her branded goods.

Here is the man’s epic response to the gold diggers out there:

A potential gf told me something that made me so turn off I wanted to vomit.

The girl said: “All these are costly. I have to consider looking for a man with a lot of money to make up for it. Otherwise, I can’t afford to support myself, and the speed of spending money is faster than making money.”

she said, “these” referring to cosmetics, facials and branded items.

My reply: Good luck finding a guy like that, here is a picture of the birthday present I’m getting for you next year.

I then told off the girl saying,

if I want find a girl that is like that I rather go for social escorts or chickens because every day can change “flavour”. Today find short hair tomorrow find long hair next day find ang gong siao.

Much more economic, just like buying economic rice, can pick so many different dishes and at a cheaper price. Without going through all the garbage dates at restaurants that cost so much more.

Nowadays, I know why so many guys marry a foreign woman. Most of them only have a simple request such as not living in poverty.

I’m not saying I’m poor nor I cant afford, I’m simply so turn off that this is the mentality that gold diggers have.