I hope this post won’t look messy, I’m so riled up that help me God. Im 50 and my husband is 51 and we have been married for 21 years.
He divorced his pregnant wife to get with me, but he saw his daughter Kristen whenever he wanted. Later I gave birth to our daughter Sasha but my husband was cheating on me and we took a break, I forbade him to see our daughter.
He missed her early years and now I think it changed everything. He doesn’t treat Kristen (21) and Sasha (18) the same. Kristen is his number one thing, he comes running if she calls him and he can just drop everything if she asks. He pays for Sasha’s education but she just isn’t his priority. He always talks about Kristen, it’s always about her. Sasha feels it and it hurts her.
I’m sure Kristen hates me for breaking her mom and my husband up. She always does things to rile me up. She calls my husband 5 times a day to chat, even late at night when she knows he’s with me! She makes him spend a week in a month with her just ‘chilling’.
He never spends as much time with Sasha and we live together. It’s a victory if I manage to get us to watch a movie together. Recently I learned that my husband left everything to Kristen in his will. She gets the condo, his watch collection when Sasha gets nothing!
It was weeks ago, he refuses to give me his answer and I keep feeling like I’m an evil man but then I get angry again. I know he loves Kristen, but maybe the threat of not seeing Sasha will make him realize he has another daughter who needs his attention.
So am I wrong for wanting my husband to focus on our daughter for a change instead of constantly running around his first daughter?