Fiancé cheated for 2 out of 3 years
My ex (M21) and myself (F22) were together for 3 years. We had bought a house, had a son, got engaged, and even had wedding plans set until about 3 months ago.
Even being young, we were relatively successful. Good jobs, supportive family, and (what I thought was) a good relationship.
My suspicions of cheating started with the continuing $600 a month credit card bill. He never did give me real answers when I asked why it was so much, especially when it wasn’t used on bills or groceries.
I found a pair of VS underwear in our bedroom, one size too small for me. It was a style I would wear, so I couldn’t figure out if they were actually mine or not, and my memory was horrible.
After about a year of him not having a passcode on his phone, one popped up. He never went anywhere without his phone, and made sure to carefully watch me if I ever used it.
Roughly August of last year, he broke it off with me for a single night, and ended up having a girl over. We got back together the next day (something I should never have agreed to, I think) and he told me about it. I was upset and hurt, but loved him too much to do anything about it.
The end of December last year, I put him on my phone plan. Brand new phone, smart watch, and tablet all under my name. By the first week of January he had left his watch charging on the counter, and by curiosity & suspicion I went through it. I found a Bumble verification code from just three days earlier.
That same night, when he went to bed, I took his phone and locked myself in the bathroom. I found that he had been talking to all other girls on snapchat and instagram. I found his Bumble account and the girls he talked to on there. I found his OnlyFans account where he was tipping girls there (note: the credit card bill), and his entire photo gallery was TikToks of girls, videos he had saved of them, and screenshots of conversations.
I confronted him the next morning, saying that a friend of mine (who was single at the time) had seen his Bumble account. I told him to delete the account and block all the women he had talked to. He did.
We ended up trying to repair the relationship, but by the end of February (right before we were suppose to get married) he broke it off with me saying he wasn’t happy and, “Didn’t have time to date”.
Two months later he started sending pictures of me and his new girlfriend kissing.
I’m happier now, and moving into my own place soon since I’ve been living with my parents for three months.
He tells the story of how we just didn’t get along anymore, but I know the real truth.