How would you feel if your date was bigger than you were expecting?
Ok, so hear me out. I’m overweight. Not in the hehe-cute-chubby-baby-fat kinda way, in the oh-she-better-lose-that-weight-quick kinda way. That doesn’t mean I’m not doing anything about it, I’ve lost a substantial (arguable) amount of weight (38kg) over the last year. The problem is, I’m still overweight, obviously.
When I was bigger, I just opted not to date because I really didn’t feel confident in myself and being hefty meant I really wasn’t pulling anyone lmao.
Having lost 38kg, however, has boosted my confidence and I wanna dip my feet into the dating pool again. I’ve been on dating apps and have dates set up.
But now, I’m getting cold feet. Being nervous for a date might be normal, but I feel like mine is directly related to the fact that I’m still pretty overweight.
I must add that I did not intentionally catfish anyone. I have my face and my full body pictures on my bio. But I feel like I’m one of those people that look bigger when I’m standing next to someone else but “somewhat normal” (again, arguable) when I’m standing alone.
So I feel like I may disappoint the guys I’m meeting. And that makes me feel horrible. I almost called and cancelled on one of my dates because I feel like I’m doing him a disservice by being… well… me.
A friend of mine asked me if I would then just wait till I’m smaller to date again to which I said I might just do that lol. But man, waiting another whole year to lose more feels too long away for my lonely self.
So, guys and girls, how would you feel if the person you’re meeting is bigger than you were expecting. And should I just retract my feet from the pool for a bit longer?