One of my best friends in my uni group claims to be serial thief – what should I do?
I’ve known her for just over a year – the kind of girl who is attractive, draws stares from guys and very fashionable. On top of that, she is a very good friend – the kind who will stay up and chat with you when you’re feeling down, or makes you little trinkets and just someone who is always there for you.
During one of our HTHT sessions…she was rather high and suddenly she began talking and rambling about how she is a serial thief and honestly we were all shocked. Based on her family background, she is very well to do and honestly hearing this was like a bomb being dropped on us.
She proceeds to tell us in detail how she commits all these and how it’s impossible for her to get caught…and till now the stuff she stole is over 50k – multiple small thefts that added up over time. The way she described her MO was simply unbelievable…yet at the same, if you ever saw her, just because she is the last person you think to commit theft makes it all the more believable.
Our group fell silent after that and didn’t know how to approach the topic with her after sending her home (yes she passed out afterwards). She never talked with us about that after the session and some of the girls speculated that she got that idea and imagined herself as the thief after watching something.
As for what I think…the vivid way she described it seems a little bit too real. I really want to help her but I’m stuck in between a rock and a hard place. I really don’t want to lose her friendship, simply put…she could easily go to jail for this if its true. What should I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- If she is your best friend, have a heart to heart talk with her. No need to bring the whole gang to confront her etc or drop her as a friend. Just find out what’s going on first before wild speculations
- What should you do? Reconsider the friendship and pick better friends. If you think talking to her would help, you are deeply mistaken. During my youth, I have an acquaintance who is also like this. She had money but she enjoys stealing. Also steal things that she has no need for. Once she gave all of us pencil cases for no reason. We soon found out she had shoplifted from a bookshop that we had all visited together. Most of us were shocked and returned her the item and told her don’t do that again. Soon we stopped going out with her as we felt uncomfortable that she didn’t stop. One day I heard she was finally caught. A few years ago I saw her working at a hotel front desk. The moment she saw me she hid away. I just pretended that I didn’t see her and checked in as a hotel guest. Life will teach your friend a lesson one day…
- Nothing to be done. If you have evidence that she stole a particular item from a particular person or place, then make a police report. Otherwise if you have no details or proof, don’t waste the police’s time.