How do I tell my gf I want to spend some of my free time on myself?
Whenever I’m free she always asks me to travel over and spend time with her. While I do enjoy her company tremendously, there are times where I just feel like I wna spend some time on my own things, like chatting with my family or playing games with my friends.
However, whenever I bring it up, she gets immensely jealous. “Why can you spend time with them but not with me?” As such, I feel like I don’t have time to myself.
I’ve been trying reconcile these thoughts within myself. But whatever I do, it seems like the only option is for me to just spend time with her. And not have any time to myself. Eventually I’ll reach a point where I feel like i’ll just have to get used to it.
Is there anything I can do to help her feel better, and allow me to spend time the way I want to?
Netizens’ comments
- Makes me wonder how old she might be…it’s normal for most women to share quality time with you, but this seems a bit excessive.
End of the day, you’re the one controlling more of how the relationship goes, but it seems you’re surrending too much control to her such that, she might lose respect for you.
You’ll likely have to set some boundaries and stand up for yourself…you can tell her ‘no’ in a slapstick manner so you dont come across too stern. Sometimes, absence does make the heart grow fonder, works both ways. - She obviously needs something to do on her own. And you can try talking to her calmly, seriously, though I’m not sure it may work. If talking does not work, the only way you can do is like some said, don’t tell her you’re free.
I know lying is not good for any relationship, so you can bring this up to her & let her choose whether she wants a transparent relationship or a relationship with lies..