Im 31yo, female, and recently started a new job. (Well, a few months ago).
Its a 5 guys office, plus the boss. The boss is one of those guys who think has a natural charm that ladies would instantly fall for, but he looks like a thumb, and has a lot of dumb confidence for making inappropriate comments, even when talking to me about work issues.
I keep him at arms length, and I’m very professional with my workmates.
Some days ago i was chasing after some workmate, because was procrastinating about sending me a document. I went to him to make him send it, and he said “Ok”. Took his phone, opened the messages’ app, and sent me the file, but looking at it, I noticed that he saved my number as “sibei easy”.
I asked him about it, confused, and looked at me, shocked, eyes wide opened. Just said “Im sorry”. I didn’t let him go, and interrogating him until he confessed that the boss always calls me “sibei easy”.
I am outgoing but I don’t sleep around.
To be clear, im naturally curve, got it from mom, but I dont look like a “sibei easy” girl, yes, I had trust issues about it, and worked very hard to like my body. I despise the thought of being compared to a easy kind of girl.
I talked to my boss when he came into the office, and asked about the nickname. He just said “Because you potray yourself as that?”, I told him to stop it, because I don’t feel safe, he just said “why are you so angry? Its a compliment” I said its not and stormed out.
I went to HR to do a formal complaint, the HR lady said that she’ll process the complaint, but that it was worthless, because “Boss is just like that”. I told her that I dont like my boss’ attitude, and need a warrant to stop.
Since then, my boss stopped talking to me, and my workmates say that I’m way too dramatic, and dont know how to take a compliment, they also complained that don’t feel safe around me, because they dont know if I will twist their words somehow.