So my (25F) older brother (28M) and his gf have been dating for like 4 or 5 years now and recently my brother proposed.
Everyone has been super supportive and happy for them, my parents are over the moon and excited for the first of their children’s weddings. And im also really happy for my brother, but there was one thing that bothered me. My brother pays for everything. He is constantly surprising his gf with gifts, he always pays for their dates or meals when they go out.
I’ve brought it up before and my brother says he doesn’t mind, that our family have more money than most and that he likes treating his gf. His gf does work and does do the cooking and keeping their house(which my brother brought btw) clean, but that’s nothing compared to what he’s getting in return. My brother also vaguely explained that there is a “dynamic” to it (he didn’t really wanna talk about it with me) which I don’t really get and the whole situation still looks like my brother is getting exploited.
Last night my family went out for a celebratory dinner for the engagement. While we were there my brother started showing them the ring and shared plans for what they would want at the wedding, then the bill came, we split it (my parents paying for theirs and my youngest sister’s (16F), me and my bf (29M) split ours, my siblings all paid for theirs and like always my brother paid for both his and his gf.
I joked and said that my brother should get a prenup, my brother told me that isn’t funny, I said back that with how many gifts he’s gotten him and how many things his gf has his name on it probably won’t do much anyway. His gf looked guilty and upset, my brother told me I was being super effing rude and he and his bf left.
Most of my family are telling me I was out of line, tho my older sister agrees with me that she thinks our brother is being exploited.
There was probably a better scenario I could have brought that up?