The balance
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I have been together with my SO for almost 2 years now. We’ve been trying to balance our time and effort between our partner and friends.
BUT I found out that my SO had lied to me about going out with a friend of opp gender 1on1. Despite communicating that I am uncomfortable with that, SO decided to lie about it and did it anyways. (LOL)
I don’t want to come off as too controlling but lying and crossing boundaries are on a separate level. This is definitely working against our “balance”. How do I communicate this?
What happens when one party is not respecting the boundaries of the other?
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Here are what netizens think:
- respecting the boundaries ah, you doing the same what.
- Your last question is odd. What happens when one party is not respecting the boundaries of the other? You mean you don’t know? You were lied to. He chose to put his own interests above yours. I get you’re confused because you’re emotionally invested. Think logically. This is something you can’t compromise (for a valid reason, you want to protect your relationship). His actions are his answer to you. Move on.
- It’s entirely your choice. You just needed affirmation from others to do or not to do. Most of us would advise you to leave the man-child. But would you? It’s happened to me before. So I’m just sharing from experience. Trust is hard to come by. It’s up to you if you want to give him time to change or decide that it’s not worth your time to hope and invest in a man who betrayed your trust. Goodluck OP
- You alr made your point that you’re uncomfortable with his/her actions, he/she still disrespected you and went ahead with it and even lied despite you being unhappy. Dump this girl/guy, if you tolerate he/she will just start to climb all over your head since he/she knows that you’ll give him/her another chance no matter what.