I have a super unreasonable and control freak husband.
He expects me and the kids to do things his way all the time (eg. the way we do/keep our things, how i hang the laundry, how we fold/hang our clothes, what time to do what, when to eat, etc etc). Sometimes we have tummyache just before we head out and needs to use the toilet, he will not be happy. He will lash out at us with unkind and impatient remarks making us feel lousy for having tummyache. When tummyache comes especially for kids, they also cannot control.
He is one who will always complain about everything except himself and gets impatient when things dont flow his way. He expects things to be ready or laid out ready for him when he returns from work, if we are home before him. Eg heater to be on, lights to be on Basically, he acts like a spoilt brat, worse than the behaviour of any kids. When cars road hog or get in his way, he will filter out and accelerate as if to show those cars he is unhappy. Seriously, like they will care? Why does he need to be impatient? If he is unhappy with us, he will drive recklessly and revs his car to show us he is unhappy with us and putting our lives at risk. For a man who will be half a century old in a few year’s time, still so immature?
Kids are not allowed to play happily or laugh too loud else he will shout at them to tone down. If he sees me sit down and rest before he does, he will be unhappy with me. But if i’m up on my feet and busy with things while he relaxes and surfs the phone, that is ok. Often he insults us with really hurtful words. It’s causing me and the kids a lot of pain and unhappiness all these years.
All these years, I keep forgiving him and giving in to him until I am very tired and it feels stressful living with him. I think its eating and rotting me and the kids up. Year on year, he just becomes worse and doesnt change no matter how i tell him his actions make us feel. Every few days our home will not have peace and i really hate it. He is also very petty and bear grudges for days. When this happens, he washes his hands off the household and doesnt care about the kids. HELP!!!!