When should a girl start paying for dates?
Hi Singapore community! Wanted to canvass some quick views on this question.
For background, I’ve been dating this girl for several months now. It’s been great and all, but not once has she volunteered to pay for anything on any of our dates or meet ups.
Hence, I’m wondering, for people who are or were in relationships where one party started off paying exclusively for everything, at what point do you sit your partner down and have a conversation about them, maybe, starting to pay for some stuff?
It’s not really that that I can’t afford it, in fact I earn several times more than her, and I’m happy to continue as it is, but I think it’s more of the principle of the matter and the fact that she hasn’t volunteered before, that slightly troubles me. What do you all think?
Netizens’ comments
- I’ve offered to go Dutch since day 1, and offer to pay the next meal if guy insists to pay first for the current meal.
Those that have the concept of splitting equally will suggest so pretty soon, by the second or third date usually.
I think you should just ask if she minds if you go Dutch for an upcoming meal. If she talks at it or gets cold /unhappy, I think this is not the kind of girl you will like to be with long term. - Does she spend anything on you? If not, then she is probably not that interested in you
- Dump her bro, save your money
- I never had to discuss this sort of thing when I was dating before.. I wld usually just take out my card (on instinct as I don’t want the server to wait long) n the guy will snatch it away (most of the time). But if he lets me pay then it’s cool. Don’t matter where we eat. I don’t think I’ve ever had this thought of ‘oh he’s a gentleman if he pays’ ‘not a gentleman if he doesn’t’ .. Too much headache /drama involved.. For me it’s more of ‘u work hard.. I work hard too..’ so let’s treat ourselves to some good foo
This will never end man.. Cause what happens if u guys break off? Would u re calculate everything u spend on her then be bitter abt it? If u guys are vibing well, then should just let it go.. If she’s a problem for not offering to pay.. I can guarantee thousands are just like her.. Due to this feminist shit..