A netizen shared how her boyfriend told her that it is okay to hit a woman if that woman was cheating, and the two then got into a fight.
Here is the story:
My fiancé told me something tonight that I think is a huge moral issue and he thinks is just a “difference in opinion”.
Tonight while in bed my fiancé told me that he thinks it’s fine to hit a woman if she cheats.
He and I have been together for 5 years and we have both been in very toxic relationships with individuals who have cheated. I know he would never cheat and I wouldn’t even dream of it.
I feel like now I’ve healed from my past and although I despise cheating, I don’t think it’s ever an excuse to hit your SO. I don’t think violence is ever an answer.
I was genuinely shocked by this statement of his. He’s a kind, compassionate person. I can’t picture him ever being okay with that. He’s never acted out in anger towards me, he’s never given me any reason to believe he thinks this is ok.
At this point, I’m asking him to look inwards and think about what he just told me. I asked him to consider if his future daughter made a mistake and cheated if he would think it’s acceptable for her to be hit for that.
He said lives and families get ruined because of cheating. He said people can lose so much if their lives are wasted on someone who cheats. I say, hitting someone doesn’t make that damage go away, it only causes more damage. It’s wrong.
I start to say how I really hope he’s just joking but he insists he’s not. I start to say how really messed up it is that he believes that and how truly shocked I am. To me, that’s a huge morality issue. He says to me “it’s just a difference in opinion”.
I stood up because I felt weird even being in bed and I can’t just shake that off and go to sleep. I say no it’s not a difference in opinion, that’s a huge moral difference, it’s a big deal.
He says he hates how opinionated I am. He says it’s just like when we talk about covid stuff ( I’m a nurse) and I get so heated and opinionated and I start acting out.
Now I’m just angry because he’s deflecting and calling me names because I made him feel bad. I told him to stop deflecting and he obviously denied that.
I asked him to please ask literally any of his family or friends if they believe that he is right to think that. I don’t think I’m overreacting, am I? Like if we are going to have kids together we should have the same morals?
I love him so much, and most of the time with covid opinions I can separate myself and I’m okay accepting differences in opinion but man.. that doesn’t feel like it’s the same
Am I being gaslit by him?