My [32F] married friend [36F] asked me to sleep with her husband.
So to start this off, I’m using the term friend loosely. We worked together years ago and kept in touch through Facebook and Instagram comments.
We ran into eachother about 2 months ago and caught up over coffee. I told her I’m recently single and told her I’m not looking to rush into anything with anyone and she told me her and her husband have been going through a rough patch but they’re working on things. She didn’t go into details and I didn’t ask.
Earlier this week she reached out and asked if we could grab lunch. I said sure and we picked a time and place. I could tell something was wrong so I asked her and she told me that rough patch in her marriage is her fault.
She admitted to having an emotional affair with someone she met online, her husband found out and threatened divorce.
They went to counseling and while things have been better he’s having issues. They haven’t slept together in months and he said while he wants intimacy, he doesn’t know if he wants it from her anymore.
I asked why not just get divorced and she said they’re both committed to make their marriage work and are continuing counselling.
That’s when she told me she wanted to give her husband a hall pass. A one time pass to sleep with another woman.
I asked why and she said she knows she destroyed him with the emotional affair and this is her way of “making it right” and since he wants to f but not with her maybe it’ll help him realize what he actually wants/needs.
I asked her if she’s spoken to her husband about this and he agreed to it and wants me to be the one he does it with. To say I was shocked was an understatement.
I asked why me and she said she doesn’t want it to be a stranger because that’s not safe and someone she’s closer with would be weird, and she knows I’m not looking for a relationship and won’t try to take her husband.
So here’s where I’m conflicted. I could tell she was desperate. She asked me to think about it and get back to her by the end of the day Saturday, which is today.
He’s an attractive man, but this just screams bad idea BUT she seemed so desperate for this to happen, I just don’t know what to do or say to her.
Please help. Do I go through with this or tell her to find someone else?