My wife (39F) and I (33M) have run out of things to talk about
My wife and I have been married for a good decade. Two kids, and live a picturesque life (in my opinion). I am committed to her and our life together. But, our minds are definitely different.
My wife is a social media lover. I’m confident she spends 4-6 hours per day on Instagram, etc. Her life revolves around those who she watches on the web. Those who she is frustrated with, what they are doing, their kids, their fashion trends, etc. etc.
She lives and breathes the lives of others online. All day. Every day. If she could, she would spend every night sitting at home scrolling through her phone.
Social interaction tires her, she works part-time (no complaints on my end), and I would say all of her recreation time revolves around those whose lives she is peering into on social media.
Myself. I am the total opposite. I have no social media. I am a very social face-to-face person. I have lots of friends, and, spend more of my time thinking about ideas. Concepts, politics, philosophy, betterment, etc. I read and socialize. But, I socialize face-to-face.
Now, where the rubber meets the road – I find when we are together, just the two of us, our conversations are flat. They almost don’t exist. The only conversations that are exciting are when I bring someone up who we both know (my family, her family, mutual friends, etc.) and she will excitedly dive into all the drama in their life. Where, truthfully, I don’t care. And I find the conversation never gets passed that.
Again, I am committed to this relationship, but, I am looking for advice. Any good ideas on how to bridge this gap? Any way that I can make our conversations lively and exciting?