A girl shared how she has been starting fights with her boyfriend over the smallest things and it began weighing down her boyfriend, who eventually broke up with her.
Here is the story
My bf broke up with me about a week ago. He had been struggling for quite a while with some communication issues with me that he couldn’t bring himself to share with me. I was totally ignorant that there was anything wrong, and I thought our relationship was stronger than ever.
When we had a petty argument the other day, that was just the last straw for him and he told me he wanted to break up.
I was shocked and thought he was saying that in anger, but he isn’t the kind to make empty threats, in the time we were together, he never used break up as a threat.
I met up with him and we thrashed things out. Only when we did, when he started explaining, that I finally understood from his point of view. A lot of our past fights were because I am very sensitive about words and take things out of context to start a fight.
After all our fights, it started to weigh him down more and more and he felt he couldn’t even talk to me normally anymore.
I broke down, asking why he couldn’t have brought this up instead of letting it kill him slowly until he could no longer take it and breaking up was his only solution.
I pleaded for a chance to try and fix things but he was firm about his decision.
I have cried every day since then. I regret that ridiculously petty fight that hit his breaking point, I hate myself for being so childish and stupid. Now I’ve lost him forever. Every day now is a blur.
I know this is what a break up feels like, but when it comes so suddenly when you thought everything was going well, it knocks the wind out of you and makes you question everything. All the times we had leading up to that day were filled with happy memories.
There are so many things I want to say to him but I’ll never get the chance to. I’m sorry. I know you said you’ve already forgiven me, but I want to apologise again.
I’m sorry I ruined you so much that breaking up was your only escape. The more I reflect on this, the more I realise I was a huge part of the problem.
I wish I had been able to pick up on this, then I could have done something about it before we reached the point of no return.