COUPLE MET ANOTHER GIRL INSIDE CLUB, BF TELLS GF HE HAD “TIME OF HIS LIFE” WITH THE GIRL

[22 F & 28M] my boyfriend said he had the time of his life hanging out with another girl

My boyfriend and I went out clubbing last weekend with some of our friends.

There was this one girl sitting at a table so we asked if we could sit with her and she said yes and we started talking to her.

I had a friend come later so I went and met up with her (in the same club) and we hung out inside for a bit before we left her table.

I don’t remember what I said or how this happened but my boyfriend said that he had the time of his life hanging out with this girl that he had only just met.

I guess that made me feel a bit weird. She was pretty cool but I guess it just feels weird that my boyfriend said that about another girl when he’s not said that about hanging out with me.

Netizens’ comments

1. Yeah, that is weird. Did the exchange contact info?
   • (OP) Yes, they added each other on messenger.
     • Well then, you have new competition.
2. Assuming you don’t want to just break up you should tell him how it has made you feel and press him about their contact. Ask him to show you his account where she was added (ask him to do it without delay cause otherwise he might delete things). Ask him also where he was so long without notifying you.
   He might refuse your attempts to confirm situation, call you controlling and what not. That is fine, he can refuse what he wants, but at this point I would just leave him.
3. The best time of his life? What the hell did these couple of barflies talk about that was so amazing?
   Important question – does your boyfriend leave the house much? Does he have a healthy group of friends he sees often? Or is he a homebody?
   I’ve see this kind of reaction before and I’m willing to bet it was quite one-sided. Guys who aren’t used to getting any attention whatsoever get an hour of conversation with a random woman who may or may not even be that attractive and the novelty of the experience just blows their mind and they think they’re in love.
   One time I went to a friends party and met her new boyfriend. He was not my type at all and I just spent like half an hour getting to know him because he was dating my friend and I’d figure I’d be seeing more of him in the future.
   We had a nice chat. I talked to many other people at the party too and didn’t give him any special attention, I thought.
   Turns out I made such an impression on him that he broke up with my friend and told her that he wanted to be with me – he didn’t even bother to learn that I was in a long-term serious relationship before he did that.
   That’s my one personal story, I’ve seen and heard this happen to a lot of girls who are casually polite to a stranger. This is massive loser behavior to be honest. Not attractive at all.
   I understand why you’re feeling weird and jealous about it, but honestly you should also feel sorry for him that this was apparently “the best time of his life.”
   Frankly I think if you’re confident in yourself, you should encourage him to try to be friends with her. If he sees something good about her that is legitimate, then she’d probably be a cool friend to you, too.
   After getting to know her better he’ll lose his rose-colored glasses/beer goggles and realize she’s probably just a normal person and maybe he can be cool about it. If she was flirting with your boyfriend and that what this whole thing is about, and she wants to steal him, let her have him.
   She’d be doing you a favor getting him out of your hair.