my bf [M26] and I [F24] moved in together but wants me to only “see” him on weekends..
Some backstory: My boyfriend is an extreme introvert and I try to be mindful of this.
When we moved in together we made sure he has his own room so that he has a space of his own, and he hangs out in there 95% of the time.
I understand that people generally are a drain on him emotionally and I have zero issues with giving him space!
But this is getting out of hand..
It became don’t come in when the door is closed. He said “if the door is closed pretend I’m not home”
Ok weird, but whatever. Except he never comes out. Right now he is unemployed and I am working so I’m barely home anyways.
After falling asleep alone last night again, this morning I asked him if we can do something fun once I get home (he likes it when I give him “warning”)
he begins to melt down saying it’s normal for couples to not talk for days at a time and since we spend weekends together I am being too much.
it’s just hard for me to keep feelings when he shuts me out.
This is insane right? I don’t think I’m asking for too much. I am content in my own company but I feel lonely after 2 months of this.
He wants me to “compromise” but his compromise is him getting his way. I just want my partner to be there for me sometimes.
He says I should be happy with him greeting me when I get home and then weekend interaction
Writing all this out feels insane. I feel like I’m being gaslit, please help.