COUPLE PIAK HALFWAY, HUSBAND COMPLAIN “YOUR BELLY JIGGLING” & KKJ STOP STANDING

My husband is embarrassed to be seen with me because I’m ugly and fat

my husband and Ive been going through marriage counseling over this. My husband isn’t physically attracted to me anymore. I’m 1.6m tall and 71kgs.

I started gaining weight before we got married, it was happy relationship weight. I gained nearly almost 24 pounds in the last 3 years and I’m so embarrassed about it. I was gaining weight before my pregnancy (no mental or health issues) it just felt good to eat good for once lol (in my youth I restricted myself a lot) but now I can’t stop! I’m bored eating so much too.

I have a 1 year old son and I’m a stay at home mom so it’s even harder to stop. I tried limiting my calories so many times and I end up failing after a few months.

Our marriage counselor told me I need to work on my appearance for my husband. We are in our late 20s and she says it’s still possible to look great even after children if I make it one of my priorities.

I do believe she’s right, she looks fantastic, she had 2 kids and she’s pretty thin and she doesn’t look like she has a belly unless if she wear shape wear like me lolol

WHAT MY HUSBAND DID AND SAY THAT HURT MY FEELINGS:

1. “your belly keep jiggling”, he said this when we were f-ing when I was 8 months postpartum and he lost his hardness, I just got irritated and put my shirt on only for his hardness to come back, I really wanted to get intimate and he really ruined it with throwing my biggest insecurity in my face while we’re making love
2. he watches adult videos of small petite hot girls
3. he’s embarrassed to be seen with me in public. He makes less eye contact with me and sometimes he walks a few inches away from me when were in public (example we are walking together and he walks in front of me and I go and grab his arm and tell him to slow down)
4. HIS CO WORKERS THOUGHT I WAS HIS MOM. We ran into his old co workers one day and I met them and they were nice to my face but I knew something was up. When my husband got home, I was bugging him about it and he told me that his co workers thought I was his mom… this hurts me because ever since the weight gain I do look older.
   I’m 26 and I feel like I look like I’m in my mid-late 30s. They told him that they imagined him with someone more within his looks range and how they pictured his wife would be like a supermodel because my husband is handsome, tall, fit.
   I WAS HOT TOO, but shit happened and this makes me feel even worse than any of the rest of the list. In college I use to be the girl where people would say about my ex BFs “ew what are you doing with that guy or this guy, they are not in the same look league as you”
5. My husband always thinks about my skinny and more fit body. He even has old photos of when I was 19-22 and he jerks off to my old body
6. My husband gave me an ultimatum he told me that I need to lose all the weight I gained in 2 years
7. My husband bought me a treadmill that I can use at home and I used it consistently for the past 3 months and then I started slowing down on it and now I haven’t touch it in like 3 weeks. I tried dieting it never lasts long. I have time work on myself since my husband does take care of his baby once he gets home from work but I just can’t stick to the routine. It gets hard and then I stop. Our marriage counselor recommended that we can make our marriage work and we can get past this if my husband stops reminding me about my fat and if I stay on track