My husband (24M) left the room while we were f-ing to watch to watch “adult cartoons”.
I am a longtime lurker and have always appreciated the advice here. I am here to ask you for some for once.
My husband and I have been together for five years, we got married a year ago. We have been enjoying blissful married life and a new honeymoon phase, as this is the first time we are actually living with each other. He is so perfect and attractive and I dont know where I would be without him.
However we now ran into an issue. We were f-ing and, after him seeming not as into it for a while, he suddenly got up, apologized and left the room.
I was really confused and after a while followed him. Turns out he was on our sofa in the living room watching japanese animated AV videos. Yup. And the tentacle kind.
This must be some kind of joke, I think, and just stand there. I finally muster up the strength to ask him “seriously?”, and he turns around and just asks me what the issue is.
We are great communicators usually but I was so dumbfounded, flabbergasted even, I just got angry. I asked him what he thinks hes doing and he got super defensive.
I pick my battles and just decided to go back into the bedroom and sleep it off. Its been a couple of days, I have been unable to feel attracted to him since because I am so disappointed in him and Im scared of bringing it up again.
What should I do? Im at my wit’s end.
Netizens’ comments
You should talk with him to have him explain his behavior. Ask him why he left the room to watch something, rather than communicating with you. If he’s addicted to that content, he will have to want to get help or things may get worse.
If necessary, and you’re able to, try to find a couples therapist who works with those who have this addiction. That way, y’all can work on communication and the therapist will know the challenges to expect from your husband.
You may want to find your own therapist as well, to support you for what may lie ahead. Hopefully, what he did was a one-time thing. But if he has an addiction that he can no longer hide from you, you’ll have to decide whether to stay in the relationship or not.