My gf (30f) pees on me (31m) in the shower
My gf (who is a doctor) and I are pretty active together in bed and I would say both of us are pretty adventurous in terms of nastiness as long as there is consent. Recently we have started to shower together after lovemaking more often.
I have communicated to my girlfriend many times that I dont have an affinity for any type of “pee-play”. As a personal preference I find it quite off putting.
Last night after we finished making love, while I was washing my face in the shower, she started to pee right in front of me and some of it got on my legs.
I did not realize until I finished washing my face and I did get quite upset but did not raise my voice. I simply mentioned that she knows I don’t like this type of thing especially without consent.
She laughed when I mentioned the word consent and said it’s entirely harmless. And this wasn’t the first time she’s done this – only that I asked her to stop in prior occurrences.
Anyways I am still quite peeved over this because I see it as a breech of consent and trust. Her view is that I am over reacting and we should be comfortable with each other’s “biological processes”.
Just wanting y’all’s opinion on this. I can definitely be high strung at times but I really think this is a hill I’m willing to die on.
Netizens’ comments
- If you don’t like it, she has to respect.
But peeing in the shower is just peeing in the shower. It means she is quite comfortable with you. Maybe too much in your opinion. - Stop showering with her
Explain to her explicitly why you are stopping and why you don’t trust her because she can respect something as simple and not doing her biological process on you.
If she refuses to give or tries to vilify you, it’s time to start reassessing your relationship because that’s kind of sociopathic. - Perfect ‘reverse the genders’ type of thread and I’m not the type to think that always applies, but it definitely does in this case.