My wife and I had been married for five years and had our first child four years ago. We had always been in agreement on how to raise our son, but now my wife was telling me that she didn’t think we should cane our son when he misbehaves.
I was brought up with caning as a norm, my wife was never caned before by her parents
I had grown up in a household where caning was the norm and I had seen the positive results it had on my siblings and I. I truly believed that caning was the best way to discipline a child, and I was determined to use it on our son.
My wife on the other hand, was never caned before in her life and to be honest, she acts a little pampered from time to time.
My wife and I argued for hours, but eventually she convinced me that caning was not the best way to discipline our son. I reluctantly agreed to try other methods, but I was still not happy about it.
For the next few months, my wife and I tried out various methods for disciplining our son. We tried using time-outs, taking away privileges, and even rewarding good behavior.
But nothing seemed to be working. Our son was still misbehaving and we were running out of ideas.
Then one day, I had had enough. I told my wife that I wanted to revert back to caning our son, and I could see the shock and disappointment in her face.
She tried to talk me out of it, but I was adamant. I believed that caning was the only way our son would learn right from wrong.
My wife eventually agreed, but she was clearly not happy about it. But I was determined to prove her wrong.
I caned our son the very next day when he misbehaved and threw a tantrum. He was so scared and upset, and I could see the hurt and confusion in his eyes.
I wanted to take it back, but I couldn’t because I had to be stern and show him that it was wrong.
My wife however, was so heartbroken to see my son getting caned that she immediately went up to him to sayang him and pamper him like it was my fault.
I wonder how will my son ever learn.
I am afraid that if I do not beat him for his mistakes now and he does not know the consequences, he might get taught a lesson by outsiders in future.