Running out of new stuff to try.
I feel like lately my wife (27f) and I (30M) have been running out of ideas in the bedroom. Some background, we’ve known each other since school and got married when she was 20.
We’ve never had other partners but are very adventurous when it comes to our bedroom activities. Almost too adventurous since it seems like we’ve run out of things to do.
Short of polygamy (which were both highly against), we feel like we’ve done everything; bondage (of all kinds), chastity, cnc, roleplay, backdoor, you name it. There’s been plenty of stuff we didn’t like, she hates spanking, I hate roleplay.
Is there something we’re missing? I peruse adult websites every so often looking for new ideas but I can’t seem to think up anything that will really spike the dopamine.
Netizens’ comments
- You know you can do the same thing more than once? Just mix up the things you do like. Or get some truth or dare game.
- The only thing you seem to be missing is settling down. You don’t always need to find something new, if you’ve both tried everything you are interested in, then stick with the things that work.
That’s a big part of a long term marriage. Eventually you stop changing and need to find a rhythm that works for both of you on a regular basis. You can switch it up from time to time with things you haven’t done lately, but if you both are in constant need of something new then I think you both have the wrong idea about polyamory. The only way to constantly try new things is to have new partners.
I’m not saying you should do that, but if keeping things different is as critical as you make it sound, it’s always going to be the ultimate result. - Sometimes the best thing is to take a break and let your receptors resensitize.
Also, if you’re switching things up daily, then you can change things up by sticking to a few things for a while, and bring in other stuff once it’s fresh again.