I don’t want to pay rent to an apartment my husband (30M) and i decided to live in for the last year and a half.
About 2 months ago my mother got evicted from her apartment. Which lead to her, her pet, daughter, grandchild, and 2 sons coming to live with us because of this eviction. My partner was open to them staying with us with the exception no one touches his personal items.
recently I took a job where I won’t be home for months at a time, with exception of 2 weeks every now and then based on where my work sends me next and I asked my husband if he thinks I should still pay rent, I was shocked when he responded with yes I should pay rent still.
We had an argument and the words he told me was if I still want my personal belongings I will need to buy a storage for them then he’ll agree to not paying rent.
In my mind I shouldn’t have to pay for a place I don’t actively stay in, AITA?
Here are what netizens think:
- Of course you should still pay rent! And whatever portion of utilities you currently pay. The bills at home don’t stop just because you’re working elsewhere. You still need a place to come home to, right? And isn’t work paying for your travel expenses? YTA. If I were your husband this would be a giant red flag on top of leaving him with your five family members and their pet.
- Let’s look at it this way. Hypothetically, if you lived alone, you had the same job where you needed to travel for months. But, every now and then you came to town for two weeks. Now, for those two weeks, would you be living in the wold? I suppose not.
Do I get this right? Your whole family (mother, pet, sister, sister’s kid, 2 other sons) are currently staying in an apartment you rent with your husband? And now you want to stop paying rent? Because you won’t be home for months at a time? And you still want to keep all your stuff in the apartment?