expecting my girlfriend to pay proportional rent and bills?
I (M29) have lived together with my girlfriend (F29) for three years. We have always split bills and rent proportional to income (she introduced this idea and explained why she supports its equitable breakdown) and we both do chores and housework equally.
Up until a month ago, I earned almost double her income. However, my company has been doing pay cuts and my girlfriend recently got a major promotion, so now she makes about 50% more than I do.
However, now she wants us to “either keep the rent/bills pay distribution as it was before” (as in she pays 35% and I pay 65%) or she “will pay 50/50, max.”
I asked her why we are not doing proportional splits anymore and she said I should just be grateful that she is flexible enough to upend her finances for me and split it 50/50.
She’s been cold with me recently and told me she shouldn’t have to punish herself for her financial successes and that my “lack of adaptability is off putting.”
I am seriously considering leaving her, given her newfound selfishness and hypocrisy.
The only reason I received a pay cut was because of company reorganization. It is also extremely likely that I will be appointed to a major executive position this year, which would give me over 4x my current salary.
When it starts flowing in, I can enjoy that money on my own.
Netizens’ comments
- So it’s appropriate to pay proportional when you make more than she does, but 50/50 when she makes more than you?
Yeah. No. That doesn’t work. - I’m sorry but I’d break up and move out after she says this. I don’t even think I’d bring it up in a discussion with her. She’s so manipulative and I don’t think I’d want to share anything not rent or even a life together with her because she’d just take and taaakkeeee! Imagine her telling him he should be grateful! I’m fuming!
- She has one foot out the door already and is trying to save money for the inevitable break up. Get out now.
- She’s counting on this not being something you want to break up over. TBH if I was you, this WOULD be the hill I die on. F that.
- Red flags everywhere. She is one of those people who want everything equal till they are the one getting the benefits. She showed her ture colours. Dump her you deserve better