I (22 F) and my boyfriend (23M) have only been dating for a week and he’s already moving so fast.
Okay so for context im in my early twenties and this guy is about the same age as me. So we met one week ago thanks to a mutual friend. (Keep this info in mind).
So, almost after two days of talking and dating, he’s instantly “in love” or acting like it, he’s making jokes about having children and if I would keep the child (I would not, and im sorry but I cant afford a child right now), and he says things like oh I’ll stay with you I won’t leave.
So it doesn’t even end there. He acts overly loving and cuddly even in public although I try to tell him to stop. But he’ll stop for a little while and then next thing I know he’s trying to kiss me or hold me close.
Okay so it doesn’t even end there. I told him I did not want him to go down on me during physical intimacy and he said he respected that but during the act he went ahead and did it regardless.
I’m a huge people pleaser and hate hurting anyone so I just ignored it. Then after he kind of lies down for a bit, he immediately goes and brings me in close and starts kissing me and hugging me before falling asleep.
I don’t like kissing and hugging much after we f so I felt a little uneasy. It’s like he acts like he cares but he’ll go ahead and just do what he wants to me regardless.
It’s weird because he’s already willing to have kids and get married and we are young. We’re both in university right now.
I wanted to know is this a red flag? What would his motives be? I don’t understand because he’s so loving and sweet? He says he’s just old school and he does act like it with taking care of me financially etc.