My boyfriend (26M) and I (27F) still haven’t slept with each other even after 8 years into the relationship. Is he still interested in me?
8 years into the relationship, we still havent gotten intimate or slept together at all. We are both virgins and very loyal to each other and very much love each other.
But im worried that he might be frustrated with our lack of intimacy by now and I would sometimes ask him if he would like to do “it”.
He would not answer and just continue to look at his phone. I also do the advancing because Im the one who has a strong libido than him and we only rub our parts together, without the penetration.
and everytime I know that he is really turned on hard, I would tease him to insert it into the hole but he would stop and say he felt something and he doesnt want to continue because he is scared that he might come in me.
I dont force him to insert it but I would suggest to buy condoms while we’re super turned on. but he doesnt want to.
Which left me feeling frustrated and felt like he was not interested in me or is he scared that I might get pregnant? I am overthinking?
Update:
Reasons : Im guessing he is not ready for a child. Ive tried to talk to him about getting birth control pills and condoms but he would lose interest right away.
Marriage : were not married yet
Yes we do give oral, but mostly just me. He doesnt like the idea of going down there. He doesnt like the feeling of something like a slimy texture ( even food ) We touch each other yes, and we tried drinking wine and set up the mood but we only ended up stopping because he was scared he might finish early.
Netizens’ comments
- 8 years! What the actual f
- Keep this up and another 8 more years will fly by.
- You need to draw the line somewhere. In my opinion. It should have been 7 years and 10 months ago, but better late than never. Tell him you want to get laid, and if he’s not interested in that, then it’s time you both move on from this relationship
- 8 years is a long time. Are there reasons? Marriage? Beliefs? Birth control and condoms are a step to not getting pregnant…. Do you both give each other oral? Have touched each other?
- honestly my feeling is that if your bf isn’t showing a keen interest after 8 years maybe he isn’t into doing it with you for some reason. I’m not saying you are not attractive – I mean maybe he’s not into the whole thing generally or he has a completely different physical “type”. Or maybe there are aspects of his preferences he hasn’t fully explored. Is this causing you to feel undesirable? If yes, you may need to consider whether this is a good relationship for you. Another 8 years could fly by pretty quick