Boyfriend and I tried to set up a three some, it didn’t work out and I feel violated.
My boyfriend and I have talked about trying for a three some for about a year now. I’ve slept with a number of women in the past and thought it would be fun to explore that with him. We set one up 6 months ago but the chick flaked which brings us to now.
So a few days back my boyfriend calls me and tells me a chick he gave his number to 3 years ago reached out, told him she was single, and asked to meet up.
He told her that he was in a relationship but then presented the idea of joining us. Then he called me, sent me pictures she sent him, and asked what I thought.
I was very interested and eager – she’s pretty attractive and I was excited to get my hands on her.
We arranged to meet last night at a bar at 7:00. There was some back and forth between them and it seemed like she might flake, but then she confirmed.
I wasn’t reading the texts at all, just letting my boyfriend do the talking.
In the car on the way there he handed me his phone and told me to tell her we’re on the way, and she had sent a message that said “How will your girlfriend feel when she finds out I called her fat and ugly and you still made this happen? Meet me alone later or I’ll tell her”
I scrolled up and didn’t see her saying anything like that but there were clear gaps where messages were deleted.
I pressed him and he did confirm that she told him that she just really wanted his D and would “f his ugly girlfriend if she had to” and that I’m “chubby and trying to hide it”.
We went home and just watched TV in silence all night. I left an hour and a half early for work this morning and I’m sure he’ll work late to avoid me.
I know he only continued to go through with it because he wanted to have a threesome but I don’t even know how to explain how disrespected I feel.
Where to even start with this one?