Girlfriend’s parents want to give/loan us money for resale, should we take the offer?
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My gf’s parents are quite well to do and once they knew we are looking for resale flats, they offered to loan/give us a sum of money. My gf and I do not have much savings but we have been consistently working for many years and have some decent CPF savings. We have been house hunting for a month now.
All along, I have reservations about accepting money and want to get a house with our own abilities, but my gf is keen to get their help. I agreed eventually, but slowly realised my future in laws are willing to provide the help if we get a resale near them, and fit some certain criteria of theirs, and these criteria keeps on changing.
I feel at a loss, because now i’m looking for flats that i’m hoping will please them, and not truly what i like. My gf says my in laws have a very good eye on property, which doesn’t really reassure me in any way.
Any thoughts or advice is much appreciated.
(Edit: thank you everyone for your responses. Some were some hard truths to read.
To clarify, loan/give is because to me, if we are receiving their help it has to be in the form of a loan, gf says she know her parents are willing to part the money as a gift. Brought up in a more traditional family with an average household income, money to my family doesn’t come easily. I have the same mindset as some of you- it comes with strings attached.
In any case, since my gf wanted the money, she feels it’s courtesy to loop her parents in the house viewing and potential flats discussion, but many fall flat because feng shui not good, ulu, etc etc. I mean, we have our own flat criteria, but now that there are additional criteria from her parents it has become quite an overwhelming list.
I will have a discussion with her, and see if there are better alternatives.)