I (20F) have lived with my fiance (23M) near his mother (55F) for 7 months.
I see her every day, she acts fine to my face but talks behind my back. She does the same thing with everyone including her children and grandchildren.
My fiance heard from 2 or 3 people that his mother called him hurtful things. So I said “you know what you say about people can get back to them” where I then explained the situation and she lied saying she didn’t say that. She never said that. I told her she would have to ask her son who it was. The next time they talked she said I snapped at her and I said he was mad at her and never wanted to talk to her again (I didn’t even hint at that.) So the next day I asked if I came off rude and she said “No, you just stated it”
Last night I cut my fiances hair and she got upset with me over it and was talking to HIM about how I was doing it wrong when I was right there. Then she lied saying she doesn’t do that (talk about the person with them right there). My finace asked her why she was lying, she avoided the question then went on to talk about me to her children saying I am always rude and smart off to her everyday.
I was going to send her a message saying if I was being rude to tell me so I can stop but my finace asked me not to say anything.
What can I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- You have to make it clear to your husband or there will be endless troubles.
- Sometimes its better to speak your mind rather than be quiet and let her take control of the situation.