I know this guy for 6 years dated and all, planning to get married. Hais just recently, while we were in heated argument, he accidentally said “I will never forget my ex even after we married” and “My ex is better than u in 2 years of knowing her than u can ever do in 6 years” “She knows how to take care of her man, sweet, caring unlike you”. It hurts me so much and even while I was crying he never stopped saying all these hurtful things.
Alreadyin rs for 6 years, still haven’t moved on from his ex of only 2 years they dated. From then on, I already felt like want to just end it all but hais 6 years wasted gone to waste just like that… tbh, he’s not even my type but yeah there must be love to last till 6 years right? The most painful part is that he’s My first love… yes his ex is prettier than me and she is his type.
I know should just let go after being compared with ex all. Haisss… actually felt like we both dragged this rs way longer than it should be… hais cuz First love I guess. Hard to let go… but I know deep in my heart, if I were to end up married with this guy, it will be a loveless marriage just cuz first love. Hard to let go n forget… hais
Here are what netizens think:
- You both just having each other to pass time and not being alone. If a guy can say such things to you, no point staying anymore. It’s only pathetic, and more hurt will come your way.Is it only me who gets irritated at “hais” instead of “sigh”?
- Hmmm….Sorry to burst your bubble but this r/s isn’t build on love. It’s build on “put up with”.
I don’t think guys would ‘accidentially’ says things like “I will never forget my ex”, “My ex is better than u” during an argument. Deep down he still miss his ex and compare her with you.
He is only with you because he has reached a point where he just want to accept someone who is willing to stick with him.
Same for you….You mentioned he is not your type. But you “put up with” him for 6 yrs because he is the one willing to stick with you.
Having said all that, my advice is to have a real heart to heart talk with him. Find out what he wants in a wife and you tell him what you want in a husband and work your issues out from there.
Like you said, 6 years is long time to just quit. At least try to salvage and hopefully start building the r/s based on love.
- 6 yrs is a fraction of a lifetime. Don’t see it as time wasted, see it as time spent learning. Move on and find someone who can love u as u are with his whole heart. It’s just silly to stay with someone u don’t love.