Dad’s debt is implicating the family even after moving out and cutting contacts
Hi, kinda lost in this situation so I wanted to post in this subreddit for extra opinions.
For context, I’m 19F living with my brother 17M & mom and my parents are not divorced however they have stopped talking more than a decade ago and he moved out on his own in 2020. But his address didn’t change because he merely rent a place or something outside we are not sure.
His credit card debts are accumulating from different banks and they are sending many lawyers letter to our address, recently we received a letter from States Court that they will be coming to our place to remove all the items under his name. This is damn infuriating for me because its really causing a inconvenience for all of us.
Another thing that made me super angry is that when my parents were still dating, my mother cleared a 10k+ debt for him before and he still haven’t learnt his lesson until now and even cheated on my mother with many different women and asking for a divorce right now and asked for our current house to be sold and split ways.
Besides that, I just wanna add that I have supportive friends around me but I wouldn’t wanna burden them with my problems whatsoever so I don’t really say much about my personal life.
I have a very loving boyfriend too but he is currently in NS and I definitely don’t wanna tire him with my repetitive stories every week. And he mentioned before that he had the feels to sign on just so to help me out financially, I was damn touched of course because the fact that this thought even crossed his mind just showed me how much he cared for me.
Everyday is a struggle, I have to put on a facade and act like everything is fine but the truth is it feels like everything is falling apart in my life. I know this is gonna be temporary, I can’t wait to grow and get out of this environment but sometimes it gets to me and I take it out on my boyfriend.
Honestly don’t know what kind of help or advice I need but I just wanted to post it here and read what ppl has to say lol I’m badly affected by this whole thing if I have to be honest. Plus I don’t tell anyone the things I go through and have been crying myself to sleep everyday and even resorted to alcohol and cigarettes as a coping mechanism.