I’m at a complete loss what to do.
Recently I found out that my dad has been cheating on my mom in the guise of overseas trips, and he’s even been sending money to overseas when finances are a bit tight at home. My mom and I had to take out personal loans to help float his business so we can’t just leave as it is. As the only son, I’ve been filial to my parents and been working my ass off since secondary school, but to see such disgusting messages with these overseas prostitutes while he claims in our faces to be a good husband and father sickens me.
I’m not sure if I should turn a blind eye to continue to keep this fake peace, or if I should confront him privately while keeping my mom in the dark, or just talk it out as a family and let all hell break loose. My mom and I have around half a million stuck in the company so we can’t just threaten to leave.
Do I just stick around and wait to recoup all the loans and begin an exit strategy, or just leave now and be burdened with half a million in debt?
Here are what netizens think:
- If you know, there’s a chance your mom knew long ago.
- Get yourself a house before literally anything else. Remember, if the fallout happens, your mom and yourself need a roof above your heads. Get you and your mom financially secure first.
- Speak to a family lawyer and counsellor to understand your options, then decide your actions from there.
- If it’s about the monies solely, Keep the matter in your heart until you get back your money. After that it doesn’t concern you anymore- only between your dad and mum. If it’s about seeking righteous for your mum, confront your dad with whatever evidences you have, hear him out first- but don’t wait too long before heading your mum’s way. Or maybe you wanna decided what kind of ending you want first, and then work toward that instead.
- I hope you have legal prove that the money towards your father’s company is a loan if not best to do it asap with a lawyer because anything can happen.