My girlfriend and I had been together for a few years now, and while our relationship had gone through its share of ups and downs, we were pretty stable.
And throughout the relationship, she has always been the type to look at babies and go “awwww”, and she really loves children.
She just started work as an admin assistant earning $1.8k per month and I’m in between job, so we are not exactly in a good place financially.
So it came as a surprise when she told me that she wanted to have a baby, and we ended up having a big argument over it, where she shouted at me “if you don’t make me pregnant, then I’m going to find someone else to do it.”
Are you f-ing kidding me, we can barely take care of ourselves and you want to take care of another human life?
I was shocked and angered by her ultimatum. It felt like she was threatening to take away the control that we had over our relationship. I was desperate for her to understand how serious I was about her, but she seemed to be stuck in the idea that she needed a baby to make our relationship complete.
I tried to reason with her and explain why I didn’t want to take the risk of making her pregnant. I explained that we were still young, and that I wanted us to be financially and emotionally stable before we took such a big step. I wanted us to have a solid foundation before bringing a child into the world.
But my girlfriend didn’t see it that way. She insisted that we were ready and that having a baby would make our relationship stronger. She argued that it would give us a sense of purpose and that it would be a way for us to express our love for each other.
I tried to explain that our love was already strong enough and that having a baby wasn’t the only way to show it. I begged her to reconsider and to think about the consequences of our actions.
But she was insistent. She said that she wanted to be a mother and that she was going to find someone else if I wasn’t willing to make her pregnant.
The fact that she is considering finding someone else to do it, is raising all kinds of red, burgundy, maroon flags and I honestly don’t know if I want to continue this relationship anymore.
Any advice please?
Netizens’ comments
- Advice? You just gave yourself the best advice, leave her. Like you said, the fact that she is threatening to find someone else to have a baby with just because you feel you are not ready, is the biggest indicator that you need to get out of there, ASAP.