My husband of 4 years and I work at the same place and get basically the same paycheck ($4k plus). He has a lot more bills than I do because of fines he has to pay monthly and his car insurance is extremely high. So usually I have like $900 after paying my bills and he has like maybe $240ish after all of his half and his other bills.
Just to break it down- we go halves on ALL household stuff- including grocery. But his car and fines is 100% his responsibility and my car is 100% mine.
So on Friday, we pay all of our bills per usual and his buddy asks to go hang out with him. I’ve seen this before and forewarned him ahead of time that he needs to be cautious on spending because I wasn’t covering things when he runs out of money (the last couple of times he went out with buddies he dropped like $140 for food and drinks and I ended up having to pay for his petrol for the next week and he does this at least once a month, sometimes twice).
He said that his buddy was covering dinner and paying for petrol because he was driving a bit over an hour to get him so it wasn’t an issue. Alright, no problem.
Well, he gets home on Saturday morning around maybe 4ish via taxi and tells me he was too drunk. And then he tells me that he spent $80 at the bar and that the food cost him almost $60 and his friend never gave him money because he “forgot”.
So $140 not including the petrol cost.
I went with him to get his car later, wasting $30 on a taxi. At this point, he only has $40 left. Which he used for petrol for work. Well, he ended up asking me to get him food for lunch (we have food at the house but he “doesnt like bringing that stuff” because it’s “not an easy meal”.
So he wanted me to buy snacks and sandwich stuff as well as buy him body wash and toothpaste because he ran out. It would be one thing if this man had cheaper taste but he doesn’t. He is materialistic.
So the body wash he gets is almost $18, the toothpaste he gets is almost $15 and his sandwiches consists of easily 8 pieces of meat (top of the line ham and roast beef) and two pieces of cheese per sandwich. So collectively this would have cost me nearly $60 and once again wouldn’t have any money left over for myself.
I wanted to get my hair done for my sister’s wedding next weekend and I wouldn’t have the money for it if I did this for him AGAIN. So I told him no. I warned him beforehand and he still went out and spent a ton of money. He says I’m stingy because he “would do this for me”.
Which is up for debate because who knows if he actually would- as I’ve ALWAYS been good with money and never needed his help so who knows.