the dating world and the employment world are the same.
for guys out there who are looking for a hot girl, then you have to spend.
from our perspective, our youth are limited, why not optimise the youth
go on vacations, eat great food, receive gifts
will the guy be able to buy a nice condo, own nice car
will the parents be able to help?
once again, it is not us being materialistic but the nature of life
we will need to protect our short term and long term interest
looks, wealth or the potential for wealth, personality
you need to have minimally 2.
even when you go for a job interview, you look at the starting pay and the potential for increment
some guys claim true devotion. true devotion doesnt work that way.
when a younger newer girl comes, your true devotion will vanish into thin air
hence, true devotion has no value. we need something tangible
even in the unfortunate event of divorce we can get half of the matrional assets
TLDR: you have to be realistic. if you are average, settle for a even slighty more average girl. someone who is willing to bto a 3 room hdb with you. but even then 10 years down the road, the girl will start to complain and compare you to her friends’ husband, like you complain your employer isnt paying you enough