A Facebooker user shared his experience with his Singaporean wife recently on the Facebook Group NUSWhispers as she was stealing from his family members, treating his mum as a maid and also threatening to commit suicide if he does not stand on her side.
Here is the full story below.
I need some advice.
I am married for almost 2 years. But I am not happy in this marriage.
I married my wife because I knocked her up accidentally. She was nice, pretty and really friendly to my friends. I thought that she was one that I want to spend my life with. However, things went down when she starting moving in with me.
She became controlling, looking through my phone, asking me not to contact any girls and delete their contacts. Whatever she saw and she wants, she demands me to get it for her. She often complains how small my room is and pressure me to move out. She picks fights with my siblings, even stealing my sister’s ADLV shirt to wear. When I asked her about it, she commented that ADLV shirts are big and comfortable, it’s easier to wear when she is pregnant. She always want to eat out, even though she knows that I don’t earn much, and requesting to eat Hai Di Lao once every week. For every Hai Di Lao meals that I bring her to, she over-order and in the end she couldn’t finish the food. During her pregnancy, we will often fight. Once, she fought with my sister and she even ran away and went back her parent’s place. She threatened me that she will commit suicide if I don’t stand on her side. I have no choice but to stand on her side. This makes me mad but I try to understand and put myself in her shoes because she was pregnant with my child.
After she gave birth, wow, she became worse. She expects my mom to do everything for her because she is on confinement. Mind you, my mom is already 63 years old. Everytime I look at my mom doing house chores, like mopping the floor and wiping the windows, I will go over and help her. But my wife will always scold me for helping my mom and not spend time with her. Once, I told her if she wants to go back to work, because I don’t have the ability to pay for everything and our expenses are getting higher after our child is born. She told me that “guys should go out to work, ladies stay home and take care of the children”. Well, okay that sounds reasonable. BUT, she ask my mom to take care of our child, bathe our child. All my wife did was to pump milk only, the rest of the time she is just on her phone or watching TV, thinking she is the queen in the household. I talk to her many times about it, but she always argue with me and cry saying that she regretted marrying me.
A month ago, we had a huge fight and she moved out of my house. She even tell me that she will prepare our divorce letters because she cannot stand me anymore, telling me that I treated her bad. In my heart, I still love her a lot. But if she is happy without me, I will respect her decision, and agreed.
However, yesterday night, she texted me and told me she missed me, saying she don’t want to separate from me. I have not reply her, because I’m in confusion. I love her, but I can’t stand the way she treats my family members and her laziness of not wanting to work.
Man, this sucks, but what do I do now?? Separate or stay together?
Source: NUSWhispers