A story was shared on the internet after a girl is facing some problem with her family just because her boyfriend does not come from a decent background and does not earn alot.
Here is the story:
Hi, I’m a lady and I’m dating a guy, we are both in our mid 30s.So we started dating for a few mths and it has been great until my parents found out the following:
- he is from a single parent family
- he is not as academically qualified (I’m a uni grad while he is several qualifications below, though now he is intending to pursue a ptime diploma)
- he earns much lesser than me (I earn more than double)
Tbh, he is probably the sweetest guy and most sincere person I have met. And he makes me feel really happy and secure (emotionally)! He took my words seriously, and made changes to his lifestyle like taking up the diploma and changing a job. Even though its early in the relationship, we wish to work towards marriage.
My parents who have not met him even totally objects and disapproves of this relationship. They said, they will disown me if I choose to pursue this without their support.I want this relationship to work, of course there are challenges ahead. But I feel with finances this is something that can be worked through with effort and time. My parents however, are not giving this a chance and would like to shut this down ASAP.
I am v confused because I love him alot and I’m willing to give it a shot. But the parental pressure is also amounting and causing a lot of distractions. He knows what is happening, and he is working on everything he can to solve them. But it will take time, effort and patience.
But 1 thing he can’t solve is his family background. This is a big concern to my family. Because they feel families should be compatible. This gap is too wide, and have ‘downgraded’ myself to be with him.I am so confused, I love him and want to give this a shot. But my family acceptance may never come because they don’t want to even meet him and will never accept his background. Also, I am clear that we are running on a tight timeline, and there are things we need to achieve financially in the next 1-2y in order for us to progress forward.
This is also communicated to him , but what if we achieved most of it and I wish to progress to marriage, and yet I still can’t get my parental approval? Please advise.