Money over kinship
So recently, we were preparing for my grandpa’s death anniversary and we weren’t even acting like relatives because everybody just cares about money/won’t treat my mum as their elder sis anymore.
My mum even has to bottle up her own feelings just because of the gossiping made between my aunties & uncle and tbh it just feels like my family is being looked down on.
We were told to transfer an amount of 800$ to person (A) by end of this month for the prayers on 4th August. Person (A) also mentioned that the payment can be made on the day of prayers itself. So, I was quite hesistant to transfer the money because it’s not even payday yet and I told all relatives that I’ll pay upon receipt on the actual day of prayers.
Person (B) replied saying person (A) will not run away with our balance money and said that if we don’t trust person (A), she’ll be her guarantor.
I just need someone to help me understand, where did I even mentioned that I’m scared that person (A) will run away with my balance money/why can’t they just agree on the pay upon receipt part?
Here are what netizens think:
- Will pay and move on. Don’t waste your time on these people. Unlikely you will keep in touch with them next time
- I will just say i only have money on 4th August because i am poor that way.Do you want to take my TV (which may not be $800) as collateral first?What kind of prayers cost $800 per family?!+
- Don’t bother with people who don’t treat their own sibling and relatives with respect.The prayers on August 4 won’t be delayed or stopped just because you didn’t pay by the end of the month.Now they are the one asking for the money, it is up to you to give as and when you are able to.Whatever you do, these people surely have nasty things to say so why do you still want to be so obedient?The more you give in because of your mother, the more the nasty relatiVes will chew you people up and they won’t shed a tear for you people.They are now asking you for money (regardless of what it is for now or in future), you can give it to them but you don’t have to do so by the date they want the money to be paid if you can’t do so.