My daughter is 18 and because I’m cautious and I’m aware that she’s becoming a young woman I’ve had all kinds of talks with her.
I came home a few nights ago and I noticed a bike on the side of the house that I didn’t recognize. I called for my daughter, nothing, I go upstairs, call for my daughter, and I hear “ f, my dad’s home”. Door to her room is closed, I knock, door’s locked, she opens, this boy comes out. She tells him to “ just go” and that she’ll call him later.
I ask her who he is, she tells me he’s nobody. I ask again, the same answer. I ask why the door was locked. She says she locked it on accident. I told her I heard her say “ f, my dad’s home” and what that was about. She claims the closing of the front door by me, scared them.
I told her I’d had enough of the lying and that since she wants to be with a guy she can stay outside and not in my home. Once she heard “ move out” she started telling me that even though the door was closed nothing was happening. She’s telling me I’m the most unfair father ever and that I’m “ not being fair”
Am I wrong? Could I have made it worse?
I know by letting her stay out she can have as many guys over as she wants, I was angry and did not know what to do.