Bff ended friendship after we went for job interview.
I’ve known my friend for over 10 years. She’s always the smarter one while I was the one who always needed her help in school. She’s also the one who tends to get more attention from boys while I’m an introvert. I guess that’s why we are friends as we are opposites but also similar in other ways. We can get along very well.
We are so close that we talk almost every day and meet at least once a week. After graduation, we found different career paths but still made time to meet and catch up. About a year after we’ve started working she told me her dreams of landing this new job. For quite a while, she did a lot of prep work in order to prepare for the interview so I know how much she wanted to do this.
She’s the type of person who tends to overthink, will never be caught eating alone or would feel insecure being in situations where she has to be doing something alone. Once I waited for her for over 30 mins in a restaurant because she had arrived but feels too embarrassed to go in, walk around and look for me despite knowing I’m already there. She just stood outside and waited for me to come out and get her which I did.
She also tends to whine about trivial things that no one notices. Like her armpits are darker (which I’ve never noticed) and she’s so self conscious to not wear sleeveless even though it’s a hot day. She would start whining about her feet color tone is not even (left feet darker than right etc) and worry if anyone noticed. (I don’t see any difference either)
So she found out about a job opening for her dream job asked me to accompany her to attend the interview. I agreed since I also wasn’t really excited in my current working conditions.
We signed up and got called back a few times. The thought of working in the same company with my bff really does sit well with me. We even talked about going shopping together to get some stuff needed for the job.
I was pretty sure we stood a good chance as we were called back a few times. But things didn’t go as planned. The day when the results were announced, my friend didn’t get the job while I did. Needless to say, she was disappointed. I also sensed she wasn’t happy for me. Being friends for so long, I can gauge what’s on her mind. I sort of feel guilty for ‘snatching her job’. But I’m not willing to forgo my application as it pays much more than my previous job. I encouraged her to try applying again as there’s a good demand in the industry. In the end she revealed that she has a medical condition so its likely she will not get in no matter which company she apply for.
Sensing her emotions, I try to avoid mentioning anything that may upset her. She knew I was undergoing training when I was unable to meet her. I also avoided posting on social media in relation to changing jobs. It’s like we have a big white elephant in the room since. I felt our friendship changed. She start to not reply to my texts. She never asked about me. I’m always the one initiating contact. She start to postpone or cancel our meet ups. The final straw was when she cancelled on me 30 mins before our appointment and never followed up. She said her dad had a medical emergency but when I checked in on her about her dad days and weeks later she never replied me. I soon found out from her sister it wasn’t true.
I chose not to confront her and left her alone. As much as I feel bad for her, I feel anger too. No I do not expect her to ignore her feelings. I do not expect her to be happy for me. I just find it sad that our decade old friendship is lost just like that. So I’m only her friend until she starts to feel threatened or felt that I’ve progressed more than her? I was never in competition with her. We don’t even like the same type of guys. There could be other issues that she has with me that I don’t know about. I guess I will never know.
Then I guess we were never truly friends from the beginning….