Why people in Singapore don’t like to greet each other?
I’m genuinely interested to understand this. Every time you try to smile or greet someone in the elevator or other places, they act like they didn’t even see me.
Some people even make faces, like I asked for their kidney or something. Am I doing it wrong? I mean It has worked in other countries! A simple nod or a smile isn’t gonna hurt anybody.
BTW I’m not new in SG, been here for 5 years.
- Most Singaporeans aren’t groomed for small talk. It’s a largely introverted Asian keep-to-yourself-don’t-rock-the-boat-don’t-stand-out-and-hammer-any-nail-that-do-by-gossiping-that-person-to-the-gutters culture.
They don’t want to “waste” awkward time pretending to be comfortable with someone they have never met in their life and will probably never meet again. It’s emotional labour to them.
- I think in Singapore culture, it’s uncommon to be overly friendly….rephrase, we’re naturally cautious around strangers. So much so that when the situation presents itself, we don’t know how to react and hence have no reaction or go towards a defence mode of ignoring the person.
- My mummy say don’t talk to strangers or else they’ll kidnap me and sacrifice my soul to the underworld
- Hah my first year in singapore from the us, i was doing the typical american thing whenever buying something at 7-11, “hey good afternoon, how are you?”
them — “ohhh hi” nervous giggling and them looking at me like i’m from Andromeda
- No one trust each other as much as they do before. I remember when I was a child, I was overly friendly and would smile at people regardless of whether I know them or not.
But once I grow I realise the world isn’t as simple and as safe I thought, plus with my parent’s teaching and other life experience, I don’t smile much at anyone anymore because I don’t trust them.
I believe introverts are this way too, not because they don’t like to talk, but more because they don’t dare to open their hearts to anyone.
Unfortunately, sympathy, kindness, etcetera are weaknesses that are perceive by most of our population, as they are feelings which makes us vulnerable, and no one wants to feel this way because they don’t want to get hurt.